Parenting - My Story

When I became pregnant with my daughter, Aubrey, IMommas who loved their children enough to listen to
was 21 years old, freshly married and scared to death!their hearts AND their children's cries! I also learned that
I read all the books, including the "What to Expect"my co-sleeping is actually a great way to "attachment"
series (even the infant and toddler ones). All theseparent, and is especially good when you are
books gave us "one size fits all" kind of parentingbreastfeeding.I was introduced to cloth diapers, which
advice.When Aubrey was born, we practiced the "oneat first I thought, "NO WAY; Are people NUTS?"; Well I
size fit's all"; parenting advocated by all the books Iknow different now. I then began cloth diapering my
read. We encouraged her to fall asleep on her on,then 8 month old little boy. The patterns are so fun, the
meaning we let her cry herself to sleep. I alsowork is minimal and I know that I am doing just a little
encouraged Aubrey to feel comfortable playing alone,part to save the earth. Not to mention save some
and not need me. I did however KNOW that breastmoney! Another added benefit to my choosing cloth, is
milk was best, and since I did not know that themy son has extremely sensitive skin, and with cloth
resources were out there to seek help to learn HOWdiapers he has had not ONE break out -- not even a
to breastfeed, I pumped.Fast-forward 5 years.Ihint of any type of diaper rash.To me Attachment
unexpectedly got pregnant with my son. This time IParenting is not at all about a set guidelines though this
found myself alone. So, instead of reading (yet again)is the set provided by Attachment Parenting
all the more mainstream books, I instead turned to myInternational:1. Preparation for Childbirth2. Emotional
heart. I searched my heart for the kind of parent IResponsiveness3. Breastfeed your Baby4. Baby
wanted to be. The kind of child I wanted my son orWearing5. Shared sleep and Safe Sleeping
daughter to be. I was not going to have help this time,Guidelines6. Avoid frequent and prolonged separations
so it had to be something I would understand, stick withfrom your baby7. Positive Discipline8. Maintain balance
and love, unlike the parenting style I choose with myin your family lifeWe (as a family) practice several or
older daughter.I had no idea about Attachmentmost of these guidelines, now. Though like I said, my
Parenting. I did not know there was a name for how Idaughter as a baby was not parented this way, so I
instinctively parented my son. I just followed heart. Ihave a good sense of the exact diffrences in the two
was steadfast in my resolve to breastfeed my son. Ichildren.Why these guidelines are nice to see, they are
sought so much help in this. I had issues, just like many(to me) just that guidelines, to me Attachment
other first time nursing mommas. From problems withparenting is more about Instinctive parenting listening to
to much milk, to problems with the pace that my milkmy heart and doing what comes naturally to me, not
did flow as well. We struggled, but it was a struggleabout some set of guidelines I "must" follow.Now my
that really made me feel good, like I was really doingson is 22 months old, still and still totally "Attachment
the best thing possible for myself and my child. WeParented," which to me means he is continueing to
eventually "got it" and it was/is the best thing in theco-sleep, nurse, is still being worn on a daily basis, and
world for both of us!Then while at a LLL Meetingstill has cute cloth on his little butt every day AND
someone was wearing a ring sling. I thought it wasnight.He walks, has started talking, and is becoming a
amazing to be able to hold your baby AND getreal "little man" (I am sometimes sad to say.) I am
something done! So I bought one. This was my firstconfident that he is so well adjusted because I was
and not my most comfortable, but I learned that I couldand am so steadfast in "my kind of parenting"; and my
have my newborn son with me, and still tend to mybeliefs. Jennifer Sprague, co-owner of High Top Baby
5-year-old daughter and get work done around theDesigns. She has several years of teaching
house.I searched, high and low, to find the perfect slingexperience, working with infants through adults and
for me. I learned how many different types therehas a passion for helping children live happy, healthy
were, and decided on how I liked mine best. When I didand secure lives. Jennifer has been a nanny, daycare
not find one on the market that catered to my needsprovider, teacher, and is currently studying to become
and wants, I created my own.It was not till then, that Ia Doula and a Lactation Consultant. She enjoys
accidentally bumped into the name "Attachmentspending time with her two wonderful children, Aubrey
Parenting"; I started reading, and was amazed andand Zachary. Jennifer is also an advocate for peaceful
shocked that there were other mommas just like me.parenting everywhere she goes.