| Mixing business with "pleasure" has never been a | | | | relationship with your colleague-then you should honor |
| recipe for a "happily ever after" and sex in the | | | | your work and look for a different outlet for your |
| workplace seems to cause pain more often than | | | | fantasies. |
| satisfaction. Every year, an average of 15,000 claims | | | | Don't ever Start An Extramarital Affair in The |
| are filed for sexual harassment in the workplace; news | | | | Workplace. In "The Firm", young attorney Mitch is the |
| headlines about sexual scandals between prominent | | | | victim of a corrupt law firm that throws its employees |
| bosses and work subordinates provoke public | | | | into extramarital affairs and then blackmails them to |
| contempt and outrage; more families and couples split | | | | extort their loyalty. He has a company-induced affair |
| as a result of an extramarital affair that one of the | | | | that costs him his marriage and his sanity. The movie |
| spouses began in the workplace; and more | | | | has a happy ending only because Mitch fights very |
| psychotherapists treat patients experiencing the | | | | hard to recover the love of his wife.In real life, |
| aftermaths of a workplace romance gone sour. Such | | | | extramarital affairs in the workplace never have a |
| aftermaths may range from feeling angry, confused, | | | | happily ever after. Besides the agony of being |
| humiliated and depressed to having been fired from | | | | discovered at home, the parties involved live with the |
| the job, sometimes without even a letter of | | | | constant stress of being discovered at work. When |
| recommendation.More companies today are enforcing | | | | this happens be prepared to cut your losses. And |
| work dating policies, providing training about work | | | | those losses may include your reputation, your family, |
| romance, or choosing to show lenience toward | | | | your job, the person you have the affair with, or all of |
| romantic involvement among employees, so long as it | | | | the above.When You Date A Colleague, Set |
| doesn't threaten productivity and team effort. And yet, | | | | Post-Breakup Rules from The Beginning.In the classic |
| so many people are not clear about the rules of | | | | film "The Apartment" C.C. Baxter climbs the career |
| romance at work. Still a taboo and a subject for tabloid | | | | ladder by lending his apartment to his boss for his |
| gossip, sex and romance at work is considered a | | | | extramarital trysts. He's also falling in love with his |
| thorny issue most of us wish would go away. | | | | coworker, Fran. All seems to work fine, until he |
| Whether you are an employer or employee, here is | | | | discovers that Fran is also his boss's mistress. How will |
| how to prepare your personnel and yourself to deal | | | | they all emerge from such perplexed dynamics and |
| with Cupid striking at the office:Know The Definition of | | | | keep their jobs?In real life, a romance with a coworker |
| Sexual Harassment. Sexual harassment occurs when | | | | always has some impact on your work life. Once you |
| one employee makes continued, unwelcome sexual | | | | know each other intimately, you become more |
| advances, requests for sexual favors, and other | | | | vulnerable to each other. This is why you must draw |
| verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, to | | | | up a contract in which you specify how you will |
| another employee, against his or her wishes. This | | | | preserve your working relationship, should your |
| unwanted behavior affects an individual's employment, | | | | personal relationship not last. Sign it and honor it, in |
| unreasonably interferes with this person's work | | | | case you break up. It's a smart thing to do. You don't |
| performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or | | | | want a situation like Baxter and Fran's. |
| offensive work environment.The film "Disclosure", | | | | Stay Away from Office Sex Gossip. In the French |
| illustrates how sexual harassment is the abuse of | | | | comedy "The Closet", the main character |
| power that violates another person's moral, ethical and | | | | François spreads false rumors at work that he is |
| emotional boundaries. The films shows how a | | | | gay, hinting that he will sue the management if they fire |
| computer specialist is sued for sexual harassment by | | | | him for sexual discrimination. As sex gossip spreads in |
| a former lover turned boss, whose purpose is to | | | | the office it creates havoc in his coworkers' careers |
| incriminate him and destroy both his career and his | | | | and personal lives with consequences that vary from |
| personal life.If you are being sexually harassed don't | | | | hilarious to severe.In real life, you should avoid office |
| stay silent hoping it will go away. This behavior usually | | | | havoc by staying away from gossip about your |
| escalates if you don't stop the harasser with a firm, | | | | coworkers' sexual orientation and sex life. When a |
| proactive stand. Call the person on their behavior | | | | coworker confesses to you an affair with another |
| immediately, ask them to stop and warn them that you | | | | coworker, politely decline to become their sounding |
| will report them if they continue. If it continues, report | | | | board. Protect your self and your job. You never know |
| the harassment. Your employer has the responsibility | | | | how office sex gossip may backfire or used against |
| to take each complaint seriously and investigate.Deal | | | | you, whether you have generated it or not.When Cupid |
| Appropriately with Sexual Advances from Coworkers. | | | | Strikes at The Office, Keep Your Romance Private. In |
| A sexual advance may be a straightforward | | | | the movie "Kindergarten Cop", tough guy detective |
| expression of sexual attraction to a coworker, a blunt | | | | Kimble goes into a school undercover as a |
| invitation for a physical relationship, or flirtatious | | | | kindergarten teacher to investigate a case. He ends up |
| behavior that has gone overboard.In the movies, Andy, | | | | falling in love with Joyce, another school teacher who |
| the central character of "The 40-Year Old Virgin", | | | | is also the very subject of his investigation. But this is |
| neutralizes his female boss's advances by staying loyal | | | | true love and it changes Kimble's destiny. Leaving the |
| to his values. His boss understands. When he gets | | | | police force, he returns to Joyce and her school as |
| promoted, it is not because of sexual favors but | | | | real kindergarten teacher.In real life, if you have found |
| because of his job performance.Real life often | | | | your soul mate in a certain coworker and you want |
| resembles the movies. If you stay loyal to your values | | | | your budding romance to have a happily ever after, |
| and keep your work priorities straight, you too can | | | | you must keep it private until it becomes a serious, |
| achieve success without losing your integrity.Honor | | | | mutual commitment. Never transfer in the workplace |
| Your Work First, then Your Sex Fantasies. In the film | | | | personal conflicts with the person you date. Always |
| "A Time to Kill" a young and handsome Mississippi | | | | respect each other as coworkers. Make your |
| lawyer is handling with admirable strength a tough | | | | romance public only when it's a solid relationship that |
| criminal case and a very attractive assistant. Even | | | | you know will last. Then, it's a time to celebrate. |
| though the sexual chemistry between them sizzles, he | | | | Congratulations! You have shown discretion and good |
| chooses to channel his passion into the case, which he | | | | judgment!Knowing how to navigate successfully the |
| wins.If you ever feel irresistibly attracted to a | | | | dark waters of romance in the workplace, should be |
| coworker, before you give into your fantasies do a | | | | part of your job training. Follow these guidelines as |
| reality check. Examine how it would affect your work | | | | rules of conduct to ensure your career and safeguard |
| if you consummated your sexual attraction. If you | | | | your personal life, every time Cupid's arrow threaten to |
| realize that it would jeopardize your work-and your | | | | pierce your bubble at the office. |