| Many parents are alarmed when the experts | | | | you what to do to set routines, establish rules for |
| advocate tough love as they think of it as a rather | | | | homework, curfews, limits of verbal abuse and so on. |
| cruel and tough treatment and the NIH have noted that | | | | There is nothing cruel about tough love provided you |
| 'get tough treatments do not work'. | | | | can still show love and affection to your child. |
| Some parents worry that this type of discipline is | | | | Imagine being able to set the limits without having to |
| maybe bordering on child neglect and child abuse. Here | | | | shout! This is just what a child behavior program will tell |
| are some guidelines for tough love or positive | | | | you what to do and how to react to violence, abuse, |
| parenting or assertive parenting or whatever you like | | | | aggression and hostility and generally defiant behavior. |
| to call it! | | | | Your child knows the limits and the consequences. This |
| Love and discipline go hand in hand! That means simply | | | | is another key in positive parenting - just like living in a |
| being able to apply the rules while still showing you love | | | | family is rather like living in society. We know the rules |
| your child. You can show that love in many different | | | | and we know the consequences when and if we |
| ways. Learn to empathise and bond too. But everyone | | | | break them. Living in a family should be no different |
| knows the bottom line and that can be firmly and fairly | | | | and positive parenting can be the answer to letting the |
| applied. The main thing is not to change the goal posts! | | | | child know he is loved but he has rights and |
| Who can tell me how to set the boundaries? Most | | | | responsibilities too. |
| behavior modification technique programs can really tell | | | | |