The Dos Do Nots, And Maybes Of Having Children At Your Wedding

Children and Weddings, a likely combination these days.Understand that.
Most of the romantic and ideal wedding scenes weAnother tactic to exclude children in wedding invitations
have seen in movies involve cute and huggableis to mention the number of seats reserved for a
children. However, being the jolly, innocent and funparticular guest. For example, Mr and Mrs Winterburg
creatures that they are, most often, weddings, at leastare reserved only two seats at the reception. That
in the movies, involving children turn out to be hilariousmeans, that Mr and Mrs Winterburg's five kids do not
and disastrously funny.have places in the wedding. They should know that.
We know that children are always seeking fun and willIf the guests still fall clueless and insist on bringing along
not stop to entertain themselves during boring hours.their children with them, call them before the wedding
Children can not easily cope up and comprehend theand explain why children should not be attending the
fun adults have on weddings. The occasion can bewedding. Educate them a little about wedding
very boring to them.etiquettes.
When children get bored, they usher in trouble toWedding etiquettes for children's parents
adults. They can roam around, throw cakes at people,For parents, if it is not mentioned in the wedding
fight with other kids or ruin things. These are fun toinvitation that children are not allowed to attend the
them, but can be nightmares to adults, especially towedding, and the couple and hosts did not call to
brides and grooms during weddings.emphasize the idea, then it is safe to assume that you
Children and invitationscould tag along your children.
Admit it. The sad reality is that more and more brides,However, be informed and bear in mind the simple
and grooms as well, do not like the idea that childrenwedding etiquettes for parents. You would not want to
will be coming over to their weddings.ruin the wedding just because your kid suddenly threw
Just the thought of crying children and children messingan act or suddenly threw a tantrum.
up with her gown and that of the bride's maids makeAssume the position of the bride and the groom. Think
several brides throw up. Another sad fact is that someof how you would feel if you were on their shoes, and
parents are not very sensitive to the issue. They couldchildren are creating scenes at your wedding. It would
not think and understand how a bride could dislike cutenot be pretty and cute, right?
and loveable kids in her wedding.Make the initiative to leave your kids at home, if you
Wedding etiquette books and guides have it that thecan help it, when you attend the wedding. They could
best way to exclude children to the occasion is toplay around the house or watch the television or do
mention it in the invitations.their stuff at home. They might get bored throughout
According to most wedding etiquette books, bridesthe wedding ceremony and spoil everything.
and grooms who dislike kids around their weddings canFor those helplessly take along children with them on
do two things: one, do not mention kids' names in theweddings, wedding etiquette experts advise you to
invites; and two, spread the word that children are notmake the most of the opportunity. In other words,
wanted in the wedding.make the occasion a venue or time for teaching the
The second option can be brutal, but it is nicer thankids of simple and practical wedding etiquettes.
having to control kids' tantrums and annoying actsMake the occasion a teachable moment by informing
during weddings.the kid that he or she should behave through out the
Because not all people understand and know weddingoccasion just like how to adult guests behave.
etiquettes, it is advisable that at some occasions, theThis will be the best teaching occasion to shoe the
couple should be straight forward to inform the guestskids how to act during weddings, or train them about
before hand that the wedding would involve an adultsome table and social manners.
reception.Moreover, wedding etiquettes tell us to learn from
Frankly telling parents-guests that kids will not beeach wedding. For the couple, on how to be good
welcome in the wedding can also be a viable option.hosts. For guests, on how to be good guests and for
For some, the gesture will not be that polite, butparents to be good teachers to their kids who are
practicality will tell other wise. Every bride and groomincidentally, also attending the wedding.
wants solemnity for their much- awaited moments.