The Attachment Parenting Book by William and Martha Sears - A Review

I'm converted. With my younger children, I readwhy the need to justify the alternative? They mention
volumes from Dr Spock and T. Berry Brazelton. Withat the beginning that these are 7 tools, not 7 steps; that
my two younger children, I had developed my ownyou don't have to use them all to be a successful
parenting style and the confidence to handle criticism;attachment parent. I didn't use the baby slinging
so I didn't bother purchasing the latest parenting guides.because I found it too difficult, but I still consider myself
I missed out on this gem as a result. This book is aas AP. They did not spend several pages in the
road map for the style that I had instinctually adoptedslinging chapter, justifying why you can still be a good
as a parent. I especially enjoyed the Beware of Babyparent if you don't. Why then the need to write so
Trainers; the best advice going.much about bottle-feeding?
But what is attachment parenting? The Sears describeThe most significant and surprising thing that I learned
it well in the opening of this tome:from this book was that despite the apparent
Above all, attachment parenting (AP)means openingdifferences in style my husband and I both practice
your mind and heart to the individual needs of yourattachment parenting just differently. As the mother, I
baby and letting your knowledge of your child be yourhave utilized most of the tools and clearly identify with
guide to making on-the-spot decisions about whatthe book, but I always saw my husband as more of a
works best for both of you. In a nutshell, AP is learningdisciplinarian type. As I read the book though, I saw that
to read the cues of your baby and respondinghis style though different was equally AP. The way he
appropriately to those cues.often slept with Emily on his bare chest when she was
This book outlines what it calls the 7 tools oflittle and even now at three. The way that when she
attachment parenting: birth bonding, breastfeeding,cries he firmly holds her and tells her to calm down.
baby-wearing, bed sharing, belief in baby's cries,The instinctive way he follows her cues whenever
beware of baby trainers and balance/boundaries. Inpossible but draws the line when as they say in the
further chapter, the Sears expound upon each ofbook...if you resent it, change it. It was very enlightening
these as well as exploring how to make them workto realize that she was receiving the same basic
for you and your child in your unique situation.message from both of us, just a bit differently.
The book is well-written and provides a good balanceThis is one of the top resources on the topic and well
between the scientific research and the anecdotal. Itdeserves that reputation. I recommend this book to
uses text boxes effectively to highlight key issues. Themany of my clients. Does it work? The results with my
only thing I did not like about it was the justification ofolder children indicate that it must...all are responsible
bottle-feeding. If breastfeeding is one of 7 tools, thenand contributing adults. Despite my failings and flaws.