| The subject of teenage discipline may mean different | | | | exists anywhere in the universe is that everything is |
| things to different people. For some people, it means | | | | impermanent, and therefore subject to change. This |
| imposing limits on what their teen child can and can't | | | | applies to a bad situation as well. This situation can be |
| do. For others, it may mean punishment for an | | | | turned around. |
| inappropriate act. Yet for others, mentioning the | | | | When a situation involving destructive teen behavior |
| subject of teenage discipline can induce anxiety. Many | | | | has gone on for a long time, it is time for a new |
| parents are struggling with out of control teens, and | | | | approach. Are there biological factors involved such as |
| are not sure what to do to turn the situation around. | | | | bi-polar disorder, or depression? Is the child being |
| The first thing to do is to remain calm and relax. You | | | | properly medicated for these ailments? Are there |
| may be wondering exactly how you are supposed to | | | | certain environmental factors that act as triggers to |
| do that when you feel nothing but stress, and maybe | | | | the aggressive behavior? All of these things can be |
| even fear, surrounding this situation. The answer: Don't | | | | determining factors as to why teens act out. |
| forget to breathe. Have you ever noticed that your | | | | What part are you playing in this behavior? I know |
| breaths become shallow and fast paced when you | | | | what you're thinking. But, here is something to consider. |
| are angry or anxious? Taking just five minutes to | | | | Every relationship involves projection. We are |
| breath in and out through the nose can make a world | | | | projecting onto the other person, and they are |
| of difference in your mental state. You will notice your | | | | projecting right back to us. Do you think it's possible for |
| breaths becoming slower and deeper. You will feel | | | | another human being to carry the full weight of our |
| calm. Once you are feeling calm, you will be much | | | | idea of who they should be? If you say that out loud, it |
| better equipped to handle a stressful situation involving | | | | sounds ridiculous. And, really it is ridiculous. It's not |
| a teen. | | | | possible for another person to be exactly who we |
| The next thing is to have trust. Trust yourself! Trust | | | | think they should be. Being aware that there is |
| that you are a good parent, and that you can turn this | | | | projection from both parties involved is a great way to |
| situation around. Trust in your child that they will be able | | | | begin to see who that person really is, rather than who |
| to change destructive patterns. The only constant that | | | | we think they should be. |