| Many teenagers feel they don't have any contact with | | | | be quite "good" parents. |
| their parents, especially if their parents are divorced. | | | | My own parents were always fighting from the first |
| When their parents get divorced they usually find | | | | days of my life, and they even made me participate in |
| another companion, and things start being rough for the | | | | their discussions, asking me whom I would rather |
| kids, who feel they lost their family, the protection they | | | | prefer to live with...I always felt that they were |
| had, the stability of their lives and the importance they | | | | immature and I had to be very tolerant with them! I |
| had for their parents. | | | | helped them get divorced when I was 14 years old |
| A very tragic situation begins when the divorced | | | | because their lives together were a real disaster. They |
| parents get married with divorced people that have | | | | should never have married in their lives! And my |
| kids from their first wedding and a real mess of | | | | existence was a very big irony that made them insist |
| brothers and sisters that don't feel anything for each | | | | on living together, while one of them should have lived |
| other start being part of the teens' life, besides the | | | | in the North and the other, in the South. There was no |
| mother-in-law and the father-in-law they acquire. | | | | connection! Their personalities were totally different. |
| Since divorces as soon as their kids grow up are very | | | | So, you'd better accept that many times a marriage |
| common in our days, teenagers with divorced parents | | | | can really be a very big mistake. It is a mistake that |
| are very common everywhere and these numbers | | | | people make when they are young and foolish, but |
| tend to increase because in modern times it's very | | | | one they have to continue bearing if they have kids |
| easy for anyone to get back the freedom they had | | | | and a sense of responsibility toward them. Many |
| before marriage (while in the past a divorce was a big | | | | parents simply get divorced as soon as they |
| adventure against society, which could not accept it) | | | | understand they have made a mistake, even if their |
| and most people don't choose the right person when | | | | kids are only babies at the time. Sometimes, they don't |
| they get married. When they realize they made a big | | | | have another choice...and we cannot blame anyone. |
| mistake by getting married to this wrong person, they | | | | Usually however, we see that many parents stay |
| have to wait the kids grow up a little bit at least, so | | | | married only because they love their kids who need a |
| that the children will be able to cope with their divorce. | | | | family. They make a sacrifice for them, but it cannot |
| And as soon as they feel their kids don't need as | | | | continue forever. |
| much protection and care as they used to before, | | | | We cannot say they are wrong because they decide |
| they don't think twice--their freedom is the most | | | | to wait until their kids grow up, but we cannot say that |
| important thing in the world! They need to have it back, | | | | their position is right either, because this way their kids |
| no matter what! | | | | are like terrible executioners who oblige them to live in |
| With the divorce, teens have to accept seeing their | | | | their family's prison. The solution would be a big |
| mother dating another man and their father dating a | | | | comprehension of the situation from both sides and a |
| girlfriend. A horrible competition between the kids and | | | | decision to solve the existent problems. If parents and |
| lovers begins. If the teens show their disgust, their | | | | teens were united, they would find good solutions for |
| parents don't stop dating their companion; rather, they | | | | their problems and nobody would feel so hurt, but what |
| fight with their children, thinking that they are not trying | | | | usually happens is that the divorced parents are |
| to understand how they feel. So, instead of being | | | | enemies who only condemn one another... |
| supportive towards their kids, the parents ask for their | | | | My advice to you is to simply forget about your |
| kid's support instead, in a matter that they cannot really | | | | parents and try to live your own life without making |
| help them with, because they are the ones that need | | | | their mistakes. Don't provoke fights or try to compete |
| help in this situation. | | | | with their girlfriends or boyfriends, don't condemn them |
| A lot of anger, nervousness, and misunderstandings | | | | and don't show them your revolt. In fact, don't feel any |
| ruin the teens' life at the time when they are trying to | | | | revolt because nobody is responsible for marring the |
| experiment with their own freedom, like birds who | | | | wrong person in their lives when they are too young |
| finally grew up enough to fly by themselves. | | | | and too ignorant. I wanted to avoid making this mistake |
| Yet, they have no intention to do anything about the | | | | very much, but I got married to the wrong person as |
| way they feel... | | | | well, even though I had my parent's example to learn |
| If you are one of them, I can help you with my | | | | from. It's very difficult to choose the person with whom |
| knowledge. My experience with teenagers is | | | | you plan to live forever when you are only in the |
| extensive, and I can tell you how you can get rid of | | | | beginning of your life! |
| your uneasiness. | | | | Accept your parents like you accept your own friends |
| By interpreting many people's dreams, I have very | | | | when they make mistakes. They are simply human |
| clearly seen their world, daily problems, psychic | | | | beings, nothing more than mere human beings... |
| problems, mistakes and fears. So, the first thing I have | | | | Try to understand how they feel and don't demand |
| to tell you is that nobody studies several subjects in | | | | anything. Focus only on your own behavior and on |
| order to specifically learn how to be a parent, and | | | | what you want to achieve in your life. Take care of |
| most people don't even qualify for that rule, even | | | | your future and learn a lot, without any complaint. |
| though they have many kids and they may seem to | | | | |