Teaching Your Children Through Leading by Example

Both the things you do and the things your children dobetter judges of character.
will affect the kind of adults that they turn out to be.Another aspect of teaching good decision making is
Every negative thing they do now will eventually catchleading by example. If you tell your children it is bad to
up with them.smoke but smoke yourself, what kind of message are
For example, as children get older they are pressuredyou sending? If you want your children to lead a
to try things like smoking. Children are too short-sightedhealthy life, the time to quit is now. Similarly, if you teach
to see how smoking affects them. Since they can notyour children good eating and exercise habits, they will
see their lungs blackening, since they do not presentlygrow into strong, healthy adults, but you have to hold
have shortness of breath or smokers' cough, they doup your end of the deal, too.
not acknowledge these negative effects. They fail toChildren, especially very young children, tend to idolize
see the dangers of smoking because they are onlymom and dad. How often have you heard children
concerned with the present and are not thinking aboutsaying they want to be just like mom or dad when
how their actions will have consequences in the future.they grow up? Parents need to set good examples
As a parent, it is your job to teach them that each ofbecause their children tend to follow in their footsteps.
their actions has consequences. Talk to your childrenNo one is perfect, and parents are no exception. Being
not only about the dangers of smoking, drugs anda good parent isn't about being perfect; it's about living
alcohol, but also about good decision making. Ask themthe best life you can not only for your children, but for
where they are going, with whom and how long theyyourself. Taking care of yourself is important so that
will be gone. Your kids may not appreciate this now,you will be around for your children for years to come.
but they will see how your nagging pays off whenIn the same way that smoking can lead to using an
they are older.oxygen tank in 25 years, giving your children a healthy,
The people your children spend time with can haveloving and stable environment to grow up in can lead
just as big of an influence on them as how they areto a lifetime of success. Every parent only wants the
spending their time. Falling in with the wrong crowd canbest for their children, but the best doesn't come
lead them to very destructive lives. The pressure to fitnaturally. Parent and child must work to be the best
in or be included may cause your child to see them asperson they can be.
friends, but parents have an unbiased view and are