| Patience is a state of calm, confident acceptance of | | | | child, to delay and opposition of any kind, you lead your |
| the time something, or someone, takes. Parents of | | | | child to demonstrate that same weakness of |
| infants often feel impatient to see their child's | | | | self-control. |
| development, to satisfy their curiosity about the | | | | It's important to remember the need for patience. |
| personality their child will demonstrate. Parents of | | | | When you become impatient you become less |
| toddlers often display impatience when their child | | | | effective, not more effective. You may be able to |
| wants to stop and explore where she is while on a | | | | make things happen more quickly through intense |
| walk. Parents of children of all ages often become | | | | forcefulness, but there is a price for that. In your |
| impatient when their child wanders off task and takes | | | | relationships you become too flexible and intolerant, too |
| longer than the parent believes is necessary to | | | | agreeable and difficult to get along with. The stress of |
| complete an undertaking. | | | | impatience is not only physically unhealthy, it blocks |
| Parents most commonly feel agonized by the pain of | | | | your ability to access clear and reasonable judgment, |
| impatience when their child displays impatience, like | | | | creativity, and deep understanding. It lowers your |
| when an infant cries during the time it takes for you to | | | | morale. If it builds up too much, it can drive you into |
| cater to a need, or when a 5 year old whines, "When | | | | very destructive behavior. |
| are we going to get there?" at the beginning of a | | | | As you replace your impatience with focused |
| lengthy car trip, and every five minutes after that. | | | | relaxation, your hurry with a calm but competent pace, |
| Parents often express impatience toward their child | | | | your frustration with the time things take with calm |
| when he repeats an inappropriate form behavior again | | | | confidence, you teach your child how to patiently deal |
| and again despite the parents efforts and pleas for | | | | with what happens and how to patiently work for |
| change. Parents also tend to feel impatient with | | | | what she wants. Avoid routinely pressuring your child |
| themselves when their child's problematic behavior | | | | to hurry up or you instill in the child a pattern of |
| requires their intervention but they can't come up with | | | | pressuring others, himself and life to hurry up. When |
| an instant way to "fix" it. | | | | your child's antics begin pressing your buttons, discipline |
| Particularly for children under six, no amount of verbal | | | | yourself to pause before reacting, to establish yourself |
| explanation will help the child deal with delayed | | | | in peace and poise before straining for control. |
| gratification, because in the first six years children learn, | | | | Beyond modeling, a great way to teach children |
| primarily, by example. After the age of six, the | | | | patience is in the garden or with a flower -pot. Involve |
| behavior you model continues to impose a significant | | | | the child in the process of planting a seed, caring for it, |
| influence upon the child, though. You have to | | | | and watching it grow. As the child observes changes, |
| consistently demonstrate authentic patience around | | | | explain how everything in life takes a certain amount |
| your child and toward your child to teach your child | | | | of time to happen. However, avoid the common error |
| patience. As you demonstrate a genuinely patient | | | | of trying to teach patience by impatiently scolding the |
| attitude around and toward your child of any age, you | | | | child for how long it is taking for his improved behavior |
| instill that virtue in your child. To the extent that you | | | | to happen. |
| react impatiently to your child, to others around your | | | | |