Six Ways to Teach Your Kids Responsibility

Although I intend this article for children, I have to admitcorrect their own mistakes. Of course, you may
that many adults may still learn from my message.provide support and help during the whole process.
Teaching responsibility is not just for kids. It’sAsk questions
pressing to pass on this important trait whileSome kids learn responsibility better when they are
young—when the mind can still be molded and whengiven mental tasks—problems to solve, decisions to
the heart is still thirsty for change.make, options to choose. They thrive more when they
What are the six ways to teach responsibility to yourhave to use their brains. Instead of spoon-feeding, ask
children?questions instead. Let them find the answers or
Create positive relationshipsolutions. Let them think and be creative.
When you develop a good, nurturing relationship withFor many people including children, questions are
your children, it’s easier to share ideas and to offereye-openers. They are the windows through which
guidance. Before you begin any “serious”they see the light and the filters through which they
teaching, spend time with your kids. Have fun together,separate the good from the bad ideas. Let them
show humor, visit places, discuss ideas, and sharedevelop positive attitude and behavior through
laughter.questions that widen their curiosity and understanding.
Talk about their frustrations, their friends, their dreams.Don’t give in
Discuss what excites them, what pushes their buttons,Learning responsibility needs time and effort, and some
what keeps them motivated. As your relationshipkids don’t want to exert the necessary hard work.
grows, gradually expect responsibility.They like to give you reasons they can’t do certain
Give assigned taskstasks. Don’t give in to tantrums, excuses, and
Teaching responsibility should be routine. Giving yourunnecessary demands.
kids assigned daily and weekly tasks at home maySome kids will test your patience and your resolve until
achieve what you’re aiming for. Chores such asyou decide to surrender. Sure, it’s tough. But stand
washing dishes and making the bed and personalfirm and just do what you think is right.
projects such as making crafts should be encouraged.Model responsibility
To prevent exhaustion, make sure that such tasks andIt may be a tall order but if you want your children to
projects are suitable for their ages and skills. Don’tlearn responsibility, you have to display responsibility
feel guilty if you need to remind them. Almost all kidsyourself. Your kids are constantly listening and
need some gentle push. But never nag. Instead,watching. They know what’s going on and it’s
recognize and praise their accomplishments.not easy to hide. You can’t afford to be
Provide opportunities to learninconsistent if you want to teach reliability. You
Issues and stresses happen daily and each of themcan’t teach your children responsible behavior
presents countless opportunities to learn accountabilitywhen you grab the knife each time you get drunk.
and conscientiousness. As parents, our usual tendencyModeling responsibility may be the easiest way to
is to shield our children from these realities. But doingteach but needs your commitment and consistency. If
so may not necessarily be in their favor.you haven’t done so, you can begin it now . . . while
Let your children learn from their decisions and actionsyou still have time.
although the consequences may cause pain andAs parents, teaching children responsibility should be
discomfort. Allow them to see, to accept, and toour lasting legacy.