Single Parenting - A Positive View

There are more single parents now than there haveChildren in more traditional families do not get this level
ever been. There are many reasons for this, none ofof attention.
which I am going to go into here. Children raised byThe guilt traditionally associated with relationship
single parents are already a large part of societiesbreakdown involving children can also work in the
demographic and this is only likely to increase. There ischild's favour. I am not suggesting that guilt is a good
plenty of negative press surrounding single parents so Ithing, only that anything that focuses a parent's
thought it would be useful to look at some of theattention on their child, particularly when they are very
positive aspects.young, can only benefit the child. It is my experience
My own experience as a single parent, somethingthat mild feelings of guilt have caused me to listen
borne out by other single parents, is that a child'smore closely to what my child says and respond
deepest wish is for their parents to get along.accordingly.
Therefore it is important that you spend time togetherMost importantly, it is crucial that your child sees you
as a family; just because you are not living under theco-operating as parents. If all they see you do is argue
same roof does not mean you cannot all spend timethey will almost inevitably develop emotional issues. If
together. This can only be positive for your child. It isyou work with your ex to show a united front and
vital that you work through the animosity of your splitfocus your entire attention a single parent on your child,
as soon as possible so you can do this. This leavesthen there is every chance that they will actually
the child with the best of all worlds; they have bothbenefit from a situation that is traditionally seen as
parents undivided attention when they are alone withnegative.
them and they get to enjoy family time as well.