| I read some North American's books, articles and blogs | | | | doing so, they actually get a sense of being loved and |
| on the topic, "What makes a good parent?" and made | | | | cared about by their parents. They might rebel at |
| a summary as the following. | | | | those boundaries, but inwardly enjoy knowing that |
| A person who loves his or her children unconditionally | | | | concerned parents love them. Limit TV and internet |
| Children need a lot of attention, time and love. Love is | | | | use. No kid needs a TV in his or her room. And it's |
| the great motivator to raise a happy child. Love your | | | | rarely advisable to allow an internet capable computer |
| children no matter what happens even sometimes | | | | in a child's room. Keep the entertainment machinery in |
| they may disappoint you, anger you, or even | | | | family areas, and supervise its use. |
| disrespect you, but even during those times your | | | | Enforce rules that apply to every person leading a |
| children should know that they are loved by you. | | | | happy and productive life. Be consistent and enforce |
| Because your children are in developmental stages, | | | | the same rules all the time, and resist your child's |
| they need your love and support. | | | | attempts to manipulate you into making exceptions. |
| Show love to your children everyday. A gentle cuddle, | | | | Communicate clearly to your children. Children should |
| a little encouragement, appreciation, approval or even a | | | | be very familiar with the consequences of their |
| smile can boost the confidence and well-being of your | | | | actions. If you give them a punishment, be sure they |
| children. | | | | understand the reason and the fault. |
| A role model | | | | A person who promotes independence |
| Children emulate their parents. As a parent, you are | | | | Do not routinely do things for your children that they |
| your children's first role model. Pay attention to what | | | | can learn to do for themselves. Encourage |
| you say and what you do around them and think | | | | responsibility by insisting they clean their room and |
| about what kind of example you are making. Model | | | | make their bed every morning. Even the youngest of |
| the behavior and character you hope your children will | | | | children can learn to tidy their room and clean up their |
| adopt and live by the rules you set. | | | | toys. As your child grows, give them more |
| A good listener | | | | responsibility. |
| Express your interest in your children and listen to their | | | | A person who has good self-control |
| feelings, reactions, and opinions. Try to understand their | | | | When you are in bad mood, control your temper well. |
| point of view. | | | | A book lover |
| A good friend | | | | Provide lots of good books to your children. Start to |
| A good parent enjoys and wants to play with his or | | | | read to your children early, and encourage kids to read |
| her children. No matter how busy you are, you should | | | | as much as they can. |
| spend time with your kids as possible as you can. | | | | A flexible person with principles |
| Children, especially at a young age, learn a lot through | | | | Allow children to experience life for themselves, but do |
| play. For teenagers, talks to them frequently like a | | | | not just lose total control. Do not make decisions for |
| friend. For example, at dinner times talk to them about | | | | them all the time; they must learn how to live so that |
| their school, and share your experiences with them as | | | | they are ready when they are adults. |
| well. | | | | Do not strictly follow the parental behaviors of your |
| A good mentor | | | | culture or other defining factor. Each child is individual |
| A good parent will teach his or her children the value | | | | and each parent loves their child. Please do not believe |
| of life to inform and advise them on what is right and | | | | that there is only one way to raise a child. |
| wrong. While as a mentor, a parent should let the child | | | | Life is a great teacher. If the consequences are not |
| to choose which path to take as long as he or she is | | | | overly severe, do not be too quick to rescue your child |
| capable to do it, but must be aware that you give the | | | | from the results of their own actions. |
| child all the information. A parent must allow the child to | | | | Do not push your child into pursuits that they are not |
| make his or her own decisions and to enable the child | | | | interested in. Because parents often want the best for |
| to make his or her own mistakes as well. | | | | their children and assume that their idea is always |
| When your child acts out in a harmful and spiteful | | | | what is best, they tend to push kids. Let the children |
| manner, avoid criticism by focusing on his or her | | | | choose their extra curricular pursuits. |
| behavior, tell the child that such behavior is | | | | A person who works together with school |
| unacceptable and suggest right ways. Avoid public | | | | Be involved in the school. Visit your child's teachers at |
| humiliation. If your child misbehaves in public, take him or | | | | open house, and get to know them. Ask questions |
| her aside, and scold your child privately. | | | | regarding how your child is performing and interacting |
| A person who respects his or her child's individuality | | | | with other students. Make sure that you are checking |
| Avoid comparing your children to others, especially | | | | homework, but not doing it for your child. Ask your child |
| siblings. Each child is individual and unique. Celebrate | | | | questions about his or her day and find out what he or |
| their differences and instill in each child the desire to | | | | she likes and dislikes on his or her learning experience. |
| pursue their interests and dreams. | | | | Be involved and proactive in getting to know the |
| Teach your children that it is okay for them to be | | | | environment of the children that your child attaches to. |
| different and they do not have to follow the crowd. | | | | Get to know the other children and their parents. Your |
| Teach them right from wrong when they are young, | | | | child will learn many things from his or her friends and |
| and they will always be able to make their own | | | | be affected by them as well. |
| decisions, instead of listening to others. | | | | An optimist |
| Recognize your children's individuality. Every child is | | | | Praise your children as possible as you can. Celebrate |
| unique. Even though your children may resemble you, | | | | the good thing your child has done, even the small |
| they are not you. Consider the individuality of each child | | | | things in a positive way. |
| a blessing and pursue ways to expand on that. Open | | | | A patient person |
| your mind to the possibilities. | | | | No one is perfect, children make mistakes as adults do. |
| An education promoter | | | | Be patient to your children's setbacks, give them your |
| Invest your children's education, both intellectual and | | | | support, never give up. |
| moral. Make sure your children can read and write and | | | | It is very difficult to judge a parent on the way that |
| think well. Be bravely counter-cultural wherever | | | | they choose to raise their children. Each parent has his |
| necessary. Discourage obsession with dating and | | | | or her own impression of what makes a parent a |
| romance. Protect your vulnerable children from the | | | | good parent or a bad one. As long as the child is |
| most damaging aspects of your popular culture. | | | | healthy and happy, then the parents are doing the best |
| A person who promotes discipline | | | | that they can. Good parents are not judged by how |
| Discipline your children. Choose the method that works | | | | much money they spend on their child but by how |
| best for your children. Set boundaries such as | | | | much love they give to their child. |
| bedtimes, so they learn that they have limitations. By | | | | |