Reasons to Ignore Parenting Advice

Everywhere you go, people spout their opinions.more so when you go from one family to another!
In-laws and parents alike, neighbors, coworkers, people3. God put your children in your hands. It is your
at church: they all have their opinions and freely tell youresponsibility before the Lord to raise your children with
what you should and should not be doing.wisdom and kindness and love and nurturing
Listening to wisdom is a good thing, but sometimesadmonition. That job doesn't belong to anyone else.
these people aren't offering wise advice. Sometimes4. Other people are not omnipotent. They do not have
they are just bragging about how much better theyall the answers.
are, building themselves up at your expense.5. You can often get conflicting advice. One person
Sometimes they've never had children. Sometimes youtells you to make your child cry it out, but another says
watch them say some pretty nasty things to their ownthat is cruel. If you listen to everyone, you'll just tie
kids. Sometimes their advice just won't work for youryourself into knots.
family's needs.6. And if you allow yourself to be sidetracked by
And when you are a home schooling family,every wave of advice, then you will just be spinning in
everybody feels the need to put in their two centscircles. You'll lose your purpose.
about your child's education. This often leads toI have had people tell me that my kids can't learn from
carrying burdens that we would do much betterme because I'll be too soft. Or I'll give them all the
without. Here are a few reasons to ignore unwantedanswers, and then they will only learn to depend on
and often foolish advice.me. Or only a teacher can appropriately discipline a
1. There is more than one way to solve a problem orchild. Or they won't get socialized. If I focus on these
to do something. You need to find the resources andthings (and there have been times that I have), I'll find
the methods that work for you.myself trying to prove them wrong or be overly hard
2. Every child is different. What works for one doeswith the discipline or extra tough on their schoolwork
not always work for another. I have three children, andrather than moving forward with purpose and planning.
I have to deal with each child differently. How muchAnd then home schooling has lost its joy for all of us.