Raising Children - Importance of Understanding How the Young Mind Works

Maria Montessori believed that even though the child isexperience in his environment. Thus, it is crucial for the
not able to talk before the age of 1.5 years, it does notparent to expose the child to different experiences as
mean that he is not learning anything. In fact, a young"the child can only develop fully by means of
child's mind is able to absorb knowledge exposed toexperience on his environment" (Absorbent Mind, p.88).
him and also has the power to teach himself, despiteTherefore, "the first thing his education demands is the
not being able to speak. This is what Dr Montessoriprovision of an environment in which he can develop
refers to as the child's absorbent mind which is in factthe powers given him by nature". (Absorbent Mind,
'at work' during the first three years of the child's life.p.89) In order to teach the child about the world, it is
During this time, the child "learns everything withoutnecessary for the parent, especially the mother, to
knowing he is learning it, and in doing so he possessbring her child out with her so that he can see and
little by little from the unconscious to the conscious,hear what the mother experiences.
treading always in the paths of joy and love".When the adults around the child talk, the young child is
(Absorbent Mind, p.26)actually listening intently and is absorbing everything
By this, Montessori means that the child is able to learnthat he hears into his unconscious mind. This piece of
simply by absorbing everything that he hears aroundinformation will be stored until the child is ready to
him into his unconscious mind. As "there is in the child amake use of it. For example, if we want the child to
special kind of sensitivity which leads him to absorblearn a specific language, we can immense him in an
everything about him, and it is this work of observingenvironment whereby the language is frequently is
and absorbing that alone enables him to adapt himselfused. Isolating the child will have detrimental effects on
to life. He does it in virtue of an unconscious powerthe child's language acquisition because "it is when he
that only exists in childhood". (Absorbent Mind, p.62) Hehears the full discourse of grown-up people, and can
does not just learn the words of the language, hesee their actions which make their meaning clear, that
learns the sentence structures as well. This probablyhe grasps little by little even the construction of
explains why we are able to speak our Mothersentences". (Absorbent Mind, p.105) As such, the
Tongue languages very well since it is a language thatparents must be very careful what is said before the
we learn during our infancy. The information absorbedchild because he will learn the language, habits and
will be stored in the child's unconscious mind and it willculture from what he hears and not from what he has
be slowly passed to his conscious mind when heinherited as "the manners, habits and customs of his
becomes more aware of the things around him. Onlygroup can only be derived from mingling with those
in the conscious stage does the child start to becomewho possess them". (Absorbent Mind, p.102)
aware of what he actually learning. This unconsciousThis Absorbent Mind will stay with the child until he is
mind is present only in the young child as "a mindabout 3 years old. After which, nature will decide on
different from ours is needed to take that step (and)the time when he will be able to make use of the
the child has other powers than ours, (as such) theinformation in his conscious mind. Slowly, the child will
creation he achieves is no small one; it is everything".establish memory, develop the power to understand
(Absorbent Mind, p.23) This absorbent mind is presentand acquire the ability to reason. When these skills are
only in a young child, thereby helping him to learn thingsfully acquired, which will be about the time when the
easily and effortlessly. However, "no sooner do wechild is 3, the conscious mind will take over from the
become conscious than every fresh piece ofunconscious mind. Nobody can have any control over
knowledge costs us effort and hard work". (Absorbentwhen such a transition will take place because "children
Mind, p.26) This explains why it is more difficult for usgrow according to natural laws". (Absorbent Mind, p.93)
to pick up a second or third language later on in life.By this time, he will be more conscious of the desire to
According to Dr Montessori, before the age of three, ado work. He will learn to read, write and do many other
child learns about his environment by absorbing thethings without feeling exhausted easily. This is the
impressions that he sees. The child does so byperiod when the child will find work itself to be a
"(undergoing) a transformation (whereby) impressionsstimulation for him to want to learn. Just as he had
do not merely enter his mind; they form it (and)always been to keen to learn knowledge about the
incarnate) themselves in him. (As such) the childenvironment around him, now he has a stronger desire
creates his own 'mental muscles' (by) using Thebecause he is aware of what he is learning. He is no
Absorbent Mind". (Absorbent Mind, p.26) As such, thelonger simply absorbing information into his unconscious
first three years of a child's life is very important tomind. He will suddenly find that he can do a lot of things
what the child can accomplish in life because should hislike reading and writing without being taught because
development be obstructed in any way, it will not bethey had been in their unconscious mind and he can
fully developed.now make use of the information effortlessly. This will
By this absorbent mind, the child is not only able toprovide him with a stronger desire to learn more.
learn his language(s), he is also able to absorb every