Raising Children - Dealing With Cell Phones - All Things in Moderation

Many of the new technologies available to families areI like cell phones, but children need to be monitored,
amazing, but there are many potential problems(especially pre-teens and teenagers). Children don't
associated with these advancements. Things likeneed a cell phone in their room. As a matter of fact,
cell-phones, computers, internet games, vehicles, andthey don't need any phone in their room. You'll have
televisions are wonderful devices. But...they cangreater success of enforcing curfews if your children
present devastating problems for parents if they aredon't have electronic devices in their rooms.
not willing to monitor the devices.We keep a centrally located phone. It's a little
Children today are like children of all ages; they willinconvenient at times, but children learn to use the
push their parents as far as they can. I was not adevice in moderation. They learn by watching their
model child. I bent the rules as far as I possibly could.parents. If you are moderate in your actions your
The advantage my parents had over parents today ischildren will be more successful in being moderate in
children didn't have all the devices to circumventtheir actions.
parental controls.Don't buy cell phones with all the bells and whistles. Buy
The best method of training children is to communicatecell phones that can be tracked. When your children
to them using electronic devices are not a right but ago on an outing, date, or other event give them a cell
privilege. Misuse of the devices must be followed byphone with a tracking device. Let them know the cell
strict controls. The quicker this message isphone must be on them at all times. You will be calling
communicated to your children the better.periodically. (Follow up by calling them more frequently
Children should not be given total control of any deviceon their first outings and cut back on the calls gradually
that can be used to communicate with people outsideover time if they are obedient.) This will definitely assist
of your home. That is a recipe for disaster.you in keeping your children safe. Be sure to retrieve
I am not an alarmist, but I am a pragmatist. Full trustthe cell phone after the event.
should never be given children until it's earned. Love isIf the child is compliant with your rules then give them a
freely given, trust must be earned.little more freedom with the phone as you see fit.
Cell Phone suggestions:Credentials
Most children do not believe bad things can happen toMy wife and I have raised one daughter, three
them. Character is not something children possessgrandsons, and fifteen foster children. These
from birth; it must be taught by their parents. As yoursuggestions are the result of years of practical
child exhibits maturity in one area give him a little moreexperience.
freedom, but do it in very small increments.