Positive Parenting Tips - How to Set Boundaries

It is not always easy being a parent. We teach ourthree general boundaries that must be set.
children how to treat us. And often from an early ageThe trick in setting these rules is to not make them
they have us wrapped around their small fingers.sound like rules. Explain why that particular boundary is
So we are not unfairly taken advantage of we asset and why it is in their best interest. For example you
parents must set boundaries early on. Without thesecan talk about their bed-time as being essential to
our children will run wild. Today parents seem morehave enough energy to wake up early the next
lenient - certainly more so than our own parents. Toomorning and start playing.
much freedom can actually harm our children.State that so-and-so child goes to bed earlier than
By setting boundaries, we are letting our children knowthem and they are lucky to be able to stay up later
exactly what we expect of them. And what wethan them. Tell your children stories about what it was
disapprove of. Yes our children may very well kick andlike when you are their age. Children enjoy listening to
scream but it is in our own best interests (and theirs) tothese - especially when it makes them feel better
set boundaries and then consistently reinforce them.about their circumstance.
Children feel safe when boundaries are set. Yes theyHave consequences if they do not adhere to the
will test you and you must be firm and unrelenting.boundary. And make sure you carry out what you
Once you let your guard down once, you have lostthreaten to do. That way your child knows you are
some self respect and will be walked all over.serious and will think twice about pushing the boundary
Setting boundaries for every routines are essential tonext time.
ensure peaceful every-day living. Where your childrenBeing firm and loving is the key in setting and
can and cannot eat in the house. What time they mustreinforcing boundaries with your child.
go to bed. How they are expected to behave are