| Of course it's possible. Positive parenting is the best | | | | the consequence and misbehavior, you are actually |
| method for your teens and discipline is the way to do | | | | giving a punishment. A punishment is like an arbitrary |
| it. | | | | result that you've chosen. |
| Let's look at what discipline means. I would summarize | | | | If he loses his video games because he breaks |
| it as a way for your kids to better fit in with the family, | | | | curfew, all he can see is that he has lost his video |
| at school or with their friends. It means developing | | | | games. Probably he lost his video games last week |
| productive behaviors that comply with society's norms | | | | because he cursed at his sister. And the week before |
| as well as the rules you have set out for them. | | | | because he was on the computer too long. |
| Discipline can best be achieved by knowing what your | | | | Most likely he just accepts his punishment and starts |
| rules are and having clear consequences should any | | | | to resent you because it seems like he is always |
| of the rules be broken. That sounds simple, but if there | | | | losing his video games. He doesn't connect the video |
| is a negative consequence for your teen's misbehavior, | | | | games to any of his actions because any number of |
| he quickly comes to realize that the easiest way is the | | | | things he has done might have triggered their loss. |
| one you have set out for him. | | | | So give consequences, don't punish. You'll learn about |
| So setting consequences is key to effective discipline. | | | | this in a video that I've made just for parents like you. |
| A rule to follow is that the consequences must | | | | This short video can be found at our website below. |
| somehow be connected to the misdeed. Your son | | | | It's free and it's meant for parents like you. It highlights |
| needs to be able to make that connection. If he can't | | | | the most common mistake parents make when using |
| go out for the night because last night he broke his | | | | consequences with their kids. |
| curfew, he knows what he needs to do next time. He | | | | I hope you'll take a few minutes and watch the video. |
| can connect 'broken curfew' with 'not going out the | | | | Positive parenting for your teens and discipline |
| next night' because one is a consequence of the other. | | | | techniques are just a click away. |
| Now on the other hand, if there is no connect between | | | | |