| You know what you want. You want to improve your | | | | inappropriate behavior and reinforce positive ones. |
| kid's behavior. But you want positive child discipline, not | | | | Consequences work by letting your child know in |
| something that involves punishment or hurtful reactions. | | | | advance what will happen when the negative behavior |
| I can help. To start, let's try to understand why your | | | | occurs. In effect, you need to set a cause and effect |
| child misbehaves. The answer is simply because it | | | | relationship in his head. When he behaves badly, |
| works for him. Yes, your child has learned that by | | | | something negative happens to him. |
| swearing or kicking or yelling, he gets his way. He has | | | | Let's use an example to illustrate how consequences |
| found the most effective way that works for him. | | | | work. Let's say that whenever your son and daughter |
| It's not as strange as you might think. And it can apply | | | | argue, both of them must go to their room. And after a |
| from sharing his belongings to working with other kids | | | | specific time, they must come out and apologize. |
| in class. Let's look at an example to see how this might | | | | Now they both know beforehand what will happen if |
| come about. | | | | they argue. So if they do argue, they understand they |
| Suppose another child at school is picking on your son. | | | | must face the consequences of their actions. |
| And even when he tries to walk away, the teasing | | | | When you come to see how consequences work, |
| continues. Well, maybe he decides on another tact and | | | | you can also see how punishment doesn't have the |
| become aggressive with the other boy, who backs | | | | desired effect. In fact, punishment can often make a |
| down. Whoa, your son sees that this new aggressive | | | | situation worse and cause resentment or other |
| behavior had positive results. | | | | negative actions. Many parents confuse punishment |
| And when this happens, your son considers behaving | | | | and consequences. |
| like this with his sister and maybe even you.If it works | | | | This confusion is discussed in a free video I am making |
| in these other situations, it only reinforces the behavior. | | | | available. It discusses the number one mistakes parent |
| Your son will have discovered that this solution works | | | | make when applying consequences. Check out my |
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| wants. | | | | consequences is the first step to applying positive child |
| So you've got to stop this behavior before it gets | | | | discipline. It makes a big difference when trying to |
| worse. The solution is to use consequences to curtail | | | | improve your kid's behavior. |