| Teens can be challenging. Isn't that like saying, "My, the | | | | of this shame. |
| sun can be hot in the Grand Canyon during the | | | | 2. Get support. This mother took control and |
| summer"? The stress of dealing with sabotaging teens | | | | eradicated the feelings of victimization she is |
| can make your home feel just like a long, hot hike | | | | experiencing. This in itself brought enormous peace to |
| through the Grand Canyon with NO WATER AND | | | | her and together we prayed for a supernatural |
| NO END IN SIGHT. | | | | breakthrough and strategic plan for her son. |
| Here are three quick tips to refresh and sustain you | | | | 3. Make a plan. We worked together to build a plan |
| for the long haul. Remember, your job as a parent is to | | | | that she could present to her son, giving him the |
| help your teens finish strong. That means you have to | | | | opportunity to come into alignment with their house |
| be calm even when they are acting, well, like | | | | rules or to leave. He chose the former and also |
| teenagers. Hormones + strong wills = potential | | | | decided to get a full time job, which we had prayed for |
| landmine for parents, but it doesn't have to be that | | | | AND go to school and take some classes. She almost |
| way. You can channel sabotage into success. | | | | fell out of her chair when he came to this decision on |
| Here is an example of peaceful parenting, even when | | | | his own. |
| confronted by a challenging teen. While his mother | | | | Since we met, her lawyer has informed this mother |
| happens to be a well-respected teacher, this boy has | | | | that the judge will most likely give her son probation |
| no interest in school. He is, however, very interested in | | | | due to the fact he is being proactive about coaching |
| smoking dope and hanging out with his buddies at | | | | and school. Mom is thrilled with the ownership her son |
| parties. | | | | is taking and also with her own newfound strength and |
| He was busted once, twice and is now is getting | | | | identity, which makes her feel in control and confident |
| ready for sentencing. Mom is melting down from the | | | | about her parenting. |
| mounting stress every time they interact. She feels | | | | I see results like this over and over again, when |
| desperate for a resolution and a plan - either that or a | | | | practical strategies are combined with passionate |
| trip to the pharmacy before she loses it completely. | | | | prayer. If you apply this consistently, you can |
| Here are the three strategies she applied, and you can, | | | | experience breakthroughs! |
| too! | | | | If you are experiencing the stress of a sabotaging |
| 1. Detach immediately. This one simple action can bring | | | | teen, here are three questions to ask yourself: |
| immediate relief. But what does it mean? Your child is | | | | 1. Is my identity meshed with my teens sabotage or do |
| not you. Nor are his or her actions. I know that is tough | | | | I need to detach more? |
| to swallow. When your teen is sabotaging themselves, | | | | 2. How could I be taking action, and coupling prayer |
| you may feel a lot of shame, specifically if you have a | | | | with practical strategies to get the support we need? |
| high profile in your community. But teens make | | | | 3. Are my spouse and I on the same page with the |
| mistakes and you have to allow them the privilege of | | | | plan that we are presenting to our teen? |
| learning life the hard way if they choose. If you can | | | | Try these and watch your family go from sabotage to |
| remember that your child is not you, you can be free | | | | success! |