Parenting Tips - Parenting Advice from Hillary Clinton

During my corporate work life when my daughter wasasked her how her day was. She said it was the
still a baby I met Hillary Clinton when she was makingworst ever because of the incident at recess and then
her first bid to become the senator from New York.proceeded to describe what happened. The
As I walked down the hall with her I told her that, likehairdresser just nodded her head, made
her, I was the mother of an only child, a girl. Then Iacknowledging sounds and went about trimming my
asked her what advice she could give me aboutdaughter's hair. At the end of my daughter's story, the
raising a little girl. She told me to read her book "Ithairdresser just said "That sounds like it was very
Takes a Village."upsetting" and my daughter said "it was, but I feel
I wasn't sure then how that could help me, but a recentbetter now."
incident with my daughter brought back that momentThat's when I understood Hillary Clinton's remark.
with Hillary.Sometimes your child needs someone to talk to who
Last week my daughter got off the bus from schoolisn't you! Sometimes your child just needs to vent
upset. She was complaining about what happened atabout things that happened that day without getting
recess that day (a fairly frequent occurrence). When Iparental advice or strategies to work with if it happens
asked her if she wanted to talk about it, she said no.again. Sometimes they just need to talk. Maybe that's
I tried distracting her by reminding her that we were onwhy so many of them are in some sort of therapy at
our way to the hairdresser where she would get aa young age -- every time they tell us how they feel
haircut and some highlights in her hair. I thought thewe give them solutions instead of just listening.
distraction worked, because she lost her sour moodThe point of Hillary's book is that our children can
and got excited about the trip to the hairdresser.benefit from the whole community we are part of -
When we got there, she tried to do some homework,teachers, relatives, friends and even, occasionally the
but she still seemed to be fretting over something. Ithairdresser. It not only provides your child someone to
could have been the adult conversation she wastalk to who isn't you, but can also help the child see the
pretending not to be listening to, or just naturalsituation from another's perspective.
reluctance to do homework. I wasn't sure.Do you have a good friend who can listen to your child
It was finally her turn to have her hair trimmed and asonce in awhile? Maybe even a hairdresser?
the cape was being put on the hairdresser casually