| Today we are going to discuss you - you the parent. | | | | this. The most effective way is to enroll in a parenting |
| Many parents who have difficult children feel that they | | | | program. |
| are bad parents. This is not really fair and I will explain | | | | Recent studies have shown that home study parenting |
| why. Some children are difficult to raise, they have | | | | programs are equally as effective and much cheaper |
| difficult natures, difficult tendencies and no matter how | | | | and more convenient for parents than going to a |
| good of a parent you are, these children are going to | | | | psychologist or parent training group. It is much more |
| cause you problems and are going to be difficult to | | | | effective and economical for you. Also, you can do it |
| raise. | | | | at your own pace. |
| Other children are quite easy to raise and have very | | | | There are a lot of programs like this online and there |
| simple complacent natures. What happens is that | | | | are a lot of home study programs. I suggest you look |
| people who have a difficult child with oppositional | | | | into two things when you are looking for a program. |
| defiant disorder, ADHD, or some other difficult behavior | | | | |
| problems or learning disorders, is going to feel like they | | | | 1. You want a program that focuses on the parent |
| are ineffective parents. That is really not fair. | | | | child relationship, not discipline and discipline techniques. |
| I will give you an example. My three children. The | | | | As your child gets older, if you discipline your child, he is |
| oldest one is oppositional defiant disorder, ADHD, and is | | | | eventually going to rebel against your authority. You do |
| a very difficult child. Always has been and still is. The | | | | not want that to happen. The much more effective |
| second child is more of the whimsical ADHD type and | | | | long term way to develop your relationship with your |
| also to a certain point his development was very | | | | child is to get the behavior through warmth, love, and |
| oppositional. My third child was very easy. | | | | the natural parenting bond connection you have with |
| These children came to the world with these particular | | | | your child. That is the most effective way of |
| natures - the fact that I have two difficult children and | | | | developing a good behavioral approach to your child. |
| an easy child has nothing to do with my parenting skills | | | | 2. The other item I want to stress is that different |
| or me as a parent. This is the child I am working with - | | | | programs focus on different ages. Children change in |
| you must remember you can be a very good parent | | | | their nature around the time of puberty. You want to |
| and still have difficult children. | | | | be sure to get a program that focuses on age 2-11, if |
| You can be a good parent but what is more important | | | | your child is in that age-group; and age 12 and older, if |
| is to be an effective parent. | | | | your child is in that age-group. You do not want to get |
| If you have a difficult, defiant, ADHD, or ODD child, | | | | a program that groups everyone together because it |
| what you must do is develop your parenting skills. | | | | will not be as effective for you and it is not what you |
| There are very simple and effective ways of doing | | | | are looking for in a good, effective program. |