| This tip focuses on what parents can do when their | | | | of what the words mean. |
| children's defiant behavior is accompanied with their | | | | Also, if your child really does have defiant behavior or |
| children swearing and cursing. | | | | ODD, even if he did not know what the words meant |
| Before you read on you must be made aware that in | | | | when they came out of his mouth, now he knows that |
| a majority of the instances involving young children | | | | it infuriates you and this will make him more likely to do |
| swearing and using cuss words, the children don't even | | | | it again. So what ever you do, stay calm... it is part of |
| know the meaning of what they're saying. So don't | | | | effective parenting. |
| start worrying that you are parenting a little | | | | This, however, applies only to young children, as older |
| sewer-mouth. | | | | children are more aware of what swearing is, giving an |
| One can, in the present day and age, find curse words | | | | appropriate consequence is in order. |
| strewn all around; in books, on the television, in movies, | | | | Do remember that when you hear your young children |
| on the radio, and even grown-ups using profanities in | | | | swearing and cursing, they probably don't even know |
| the presence of young children. | | | | the meaning of what they're saying. What is important |
| Children are known to learn by imitating, and this holds | | | | in such instances is trying to identify where the child |
| true for learning and picking up foul language and cuss | | | | picks up this kind of language. |
| words as well. | | | | Also, young children aren't usually aware of the |
| An example involving my little brother comes to mind. | | | | implications that using swearing can have. Here, you |
| When he was in the 4th grade he once used a curse | | | | need to reiterate to your child that using bad language |
| word in class and his teacher happened to overhear it. | | | | isn't appreciated at all. |
| This upset her greatly, and my brother was quickly | | | | This should be reiterated until your child understands |
| sent to serve detention. | | | | that using foul language isn't acceptable. |
| However, this did not satisfy the teacher and she | | | | Also, the language that we, as adults use in the |
| demanded that the school should take sterner action. | | | | proximity of our children also has an effect on the |
| The teacher said that this was required to keep others | | | | way they speak. |
| in her class from following suit. | | | | If we give respect to our children and other people |
| When the matter had passed, my parents got down | | | | while we talk to them, we can expect our children to |
| to discuss this casually with my brother. At the end of | | | | do the same. If we, as parents are swearing as we |
| their conversation they realized that my brother did not | | | | speak, it is only common sense to expect to hear our |
| even know what the word meant. What he thought it | | | | children swearing too. |
| meant was nowhere close to the word's actual | | | | Children often look up to their parents as role models. |
| meaning. | | | | Therefore, whatever language a parent uses, a child |
| The teacher hadn't thought of it this way, and my | | | | thinks is ok to use. Also, while your child might not |
| brother was almost kicked out of school because of | | | | swear and curse at home, he could do so outside the |
| this little misadventure. | | | | home. This makes your watching what you say in |
| Your child's defiant behavior could also result in him | | | | front if your children very important. |
| using foul language without understanding what it | | | | A recently conducted survey's results said that 9 of 10 |
| means. Again, the sources of bad language nowadays | | | | parents used swear words in the presence of their |
| are easily accessible in the form of TV, movies, music, | | | | children. Going by this, one can say that parents to |
| etc. Children are often bombarded with a flurry of | | | | need to exercise a fair amount of restraint, and the |
| curse words, while they still have no idea of what | | | | way they behave should have no negative impact if |
| these words mean. | | | | imitated by their children. |
| However, children are smart enough to understand | | | | If your goal is parenting effectively, you should |
| that these words are often used when someone is | | | | remember these points: |
| angry or frustrated. This is the reason why they end | | | | Exercise Self Control |
| up using these words when they feel frustrated or | | | | Be calm, and |
| angry. | | | | Do not get offended when you catch your children |
| This is why you should first find out if your child knows | | | | swearing. |
| the meaning of the words he uses. Even in the case | | | | You simply have to tell your children that foul language |
| your child does know what the words mean, he should | | | | isn't expected from them. |
| still be told that such language being used isn't allowed. | | | | Remember that most of the time, they don't even |
| Getting angry or upset in such instances doesn't really | | | | know the meaning of the swear words they use. |
| serve any purpose, as your child is probably unaware | | | | |