Parenting Advice - The Nuts and Bolts of Quality Time

Contrary to popular notion, the best parent-childfor overall personal and emotional development. Each
memories are not created out of major milestonesdistinct interaction, though dramatically different, offers
marked with much celebration and fanfare. It's the littledifferent benefits and teaches different life-skills.
moments spent in doing things together that createFor all of you dads and mums out there looking for
beautiful memories - cherished and held close to thesome special way to spend time with your sons or
heart forever.daughters - a few suggestions:
What constitutes quality time?Father-Son Quality Time:
Both parents and children seem to agree that spending• Taking your son to watch the soccer or cricket
casual time (just being together, doing simple things likefinals live so that he can cheer his favorite team on
talking to each other or playing games together) is thebeats watching the match on TV hands down
best way to share meaningful time. The second most• Spend the weekend fishing or camping in the
popular choice is participating in sports and otherwilderness - just the two of you. The connection made
outdoor activities together. The winning ingredientusing a rod, reel and bait can withstand most
throughout is personal interaction.relationship vagaries later on. Besides, there'll be plenty
On the other hand, there are significant differences inof stories to regale others with for years to come
the way fathers and mothers view meaningful time:• Suggest a carpentry project that you can help him
• Mothers tend to be more oriented towardswith - perhaps a gift for mum on mother's day?
informal interaction and instructive activities - Fathers• Teach your son to make periscopes, paper planes,
lean towards athletic and event-type activitiesreef knots and home-made go-karts. It's something
• Mothers are more protective and engage theirthat he will probably want to do with his own sons
children in mostly social exchanges - Fathers are moresome day.
willing to allow their kids to take risks during play• Get him to help you wash down your bike or car
Finding Quality Together Time In The Little Thingsat least once a week
The verdict is in, and is borne out by sociologicalFather-Daughter Quality Time:
evidence - children who receive lots of positive• Spend the day on the beach. Helping her dig that
attention from their parents are more likely to developlong deep tunnel in the sand is sure to establish the
a clear system of values and live satisfying andfeeling of "My daddy greatest" for a long, long time to
productive lives.come. If your daughter is old enough, help her build a
The process of developing a good parent-childgigantic sand castle instead.
relationship can and should start from the time the child• Take her to a stationery store and let her pick up
is born. Here are some of the typical parent-childsome dainty writing paper that all girls so love to write
exchanges that occur during the different stages of aon.
child's life - the kind that make meaningful moments• How about an ice-cream after dinner - just you
and beautiful memories:and her?
• For tiny tots - feeding time, bath time and playingMother-Son Quality Time
peek-a-boo• Spend a few minutes every day trying to put
• During the toddler stage - looking at picture books,together that 1000-piece double-sided puzzle featuring
playing on the floor or going for strollsa crowd of people lying on the beach. Trying to figure
• For preschoolers - walks to and from theout which piece goes where can make for many a
playground, visiting the library or just running around inhilarious moment
the open• Book ringside seats for the circus
• For school-age kids - time spent on bike rides,• Spend the day at the planetarium or the aquarium.
playing ball etc.A science museum is a nice alternative
• For teenagers - teenagers abhor hanging out withMother-Daughter Quality Time:
dad or mum - it is the source of much unnecessary• Attend stained glass painting or pottery classes
angst. However, they enjoy spending time with theirtogether
parents in activities like listening to music together• Do a craft or hobby together - it could be making
TIP: Making it a habit to have at least one meal a dayballoon papier-mâché dolls, origami or even
together with your child can pay rich dividends as itChristmas cards and Diwali/New Year stars
provides you with the opportunity to stay connected• An outdoor activity is a great way to spend time
and find out what's going on in your child's life.and enjoy a wonderful sunny day together
Mother-Son, Mother-Daughter, Father-Son andRemember:
Father-Daughter: Are They Distinct Relationships?• A child that lives with affection learns to love
There is plenty of evidence that suggests fathers and• A child that lives with encouragement learns to be
mothers aren't interchangeable in their relationshipsconfident
towards their sons or daughter, though relationships• A child that lives with truth learns to be honest
between the four dyads of father-son,• A child that lives with happiness learns to find joy
father-daughter, mother-son and mother-daughter areand beauty in everything
distinctly different.Spending quality time together with your children is the
That said, all children, whether boys or girls, need tobest gift you can give them.
have abundant positive interaction with both parents