| If you are wondering how to handle my out of control | | | | rewards and treats that they are given for completing |
| teenager then I think I can help you. My adult son was | | | | things. This does two great things. Firstly, the teenager |
| a nightmare through his teenage years and now he | | | | is coming to a time of life when they want a feeling of |
| thanks me to this day for the discipline I gave to him in | | | | independence from their parents. This is totally natural |
| rough times and we get on like a house on fire, a rare | | | | of course and we have all been through it. Secondly, |
| thing nowadays. Here are some tips on how to handle | | | | your out of control teenager will work much harder |
| my out of control teenager. | | | | and passionately and longer for something that they |
| Punish and reward consistently - What tends to | | | | want than a randomly selected treat that you think |
| happen is parents will think "that is out of order, I have | | | | they like. |
| to punish that behaviour" and they are right of course. | | | | Listen - This is another simple one that everyone says |
| But they punish it once and do not understand that | | | | but only the rarest brilliant parents actually put into |
| every time they stop being consistent, the teenager | | | | action. What you have to do is when your teenager |
| realises that they might get away with it, This is not | | | | speaks to you through words or actions, watch it |
| what you want. Consistency can also be applied to | | | | happening without judging. Do not be thinking about |
| rewards. Concentrate on rewarding the good | | | | your next line or how you are going to get your way. |
| behaviours and they will become more abundant Try | | | | Listen openly and think of a way you can give them |
| to punish as little as possible. | | | | what they want whilst also getting what you want. |
| The actual rewards - Let the teenager pick the actual | | | | |