| We procrastinate about making better choices | | | | parenting style. How can we nurture in our children |
| because it is easier to stay in the everyday "familiar" | | | | what we don't have and feel inside about ourselves? |
| and "ordinary". We know we should get moving and | | | | We may decide to take action and read some books |
| take some type of action but we don't. Taking action | | | | on successful parenting skills or even attend a |
| means breaking through our personal perceived reality | | | | parenting workshop. These are positive external action |
| and adopting a mindset of potential unlimited | | | | goals; and if we really want to get to the heart of the |
| possibilities. Like Henry Ford said, "If you think you can | | | | matter, taking a look internally for answers as well as |
| or can't either way you're right". Limiting beliefs and | | | | externally is the key to real success. |
| attitudes are patterns of thoughts and feelings that | | | | Facing our own personal fears, limiting beliefs, and |
| expand from our form-fitting mold of experience and | | | | attitudes, we ultimately begin to break down the |
| conditioning that have evolved over time. Without | | | | barriers and challenges of unproductive parenting |
| consciously realizing it, we create links and connections | | | | behavior. Here is an example: Thomas recently got |
| from past associations; and as a result, we limit our | | | | divorced. He feels a lot of shame and guilt over it; as a |
| reality of potential options. This becomes habitual and | | | | result, he overcompensates and lets some of his |
| automatic. | | | | children's misbehavior go unchecked. He makes |
| For example, if you believe that you can't become | | | | excuses for himself to himself. Facing the emotions |
| more a more positive, effective parent that promotes | | | | and fears that shame and guilt cause him to feel are |
| cooperation and responsible behavior from your | | | | steps to improving how he feels about himself. Once |
| child--change in your family life may seem hopeless. | | | | he feels better about himself, he begins to harness the |
| On the other hand, if you realize that your belief | | | | power, control, and confidence needed to parent in a |
| patterns are just the reality you have created over | | | | more productive way. |
| time, you will discover that you have the power inside | | | | Looking inside and asking some hard questions will give |
| to change them and foster attitudes and behavior | | | | us answers. We may not like the answers. Facing |
| from your child that are encouraging, respectful, and | | | | them is the hardest part but we are up to the |
| accountable. | | | | challenge because we want to be more positive, |
| Lack of self confidence can be evidenced in our | | | | effective parents. |