Look! I Did it Myself! Teaching Children Independence

There is nothing sweeter than watching a child masterBehavioral Sciences at both The Children's National
a skill and know it. Whether it's potty training, learning toMedical Center and The George Washington
put on a jacket by himself, tackling cutting skills, orUniversity School of Medicine in Washington, DC, who
understanding that blue and yellow make green eachis internationally known for early childhood diagnosis
and every time, that 'ah-ha' moment is priceless. Ofand treatment strategies, "Self-confidence grows from
course, it takes lots of practice for most kids tofeeling your successes, and this is true in young
master something new, and there are usually misstepschildren, older children, and adults. If we've done a good
along the way. Oftentimes, the child gets frustratedjob at work, we've had a good day and feel proud of
when a new task is difficult, yet learning perseveranceourselves, and we know a little bit more about we're
is also part of the equation.going to do the next day. We've honed our skill. It's the
Sure, as parents we are all busy and there are manysame thing for the child who has so many things new
times when it is just easier for us to do things for ourto learn. Pride motivates all of us to try harder and
kids, instead of watching the painstaking process ofsucceed again."
them learning a new skill by themselves. But, ultimately,With that in mind, give your child the time and patience
they must learn, and it often takes lots of practice tohe needs when figuring something out for the first time.
get it right.When he gets it right, you will both be proud of his
According to Jean Thomas, MD, MSW, a Clinicalindependence.
Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and