| Are temper tantrums a daily event in your house? | | | | themselves. Your "feeling talk" might just help with a |
| There's no doubt that raising young children can | | | | pending explosion. |
| sometimes become challenging. However the future | | | | Let your child make age appropriate choices as long |
| result is worth the emotional and physical rollercoaster. | | | | as choices fit within reason, such as dress code rules. |
| When children are raised properly, with the care and | | | | Then go along with it and don't pester them about it |
| attention they deserve, they become the leaders and | | | | later. Kids need to have their personal space and learn |
| role-models of the new world. This is an important | | | | responsibility over their appearance and grooming |
| stage in your child's development and characterized by | | | | efforts. They have discovered that they can do things |
| frequent mood swings, temper tantrums, and liberal | | | | on their own and that they have their own opinions. It is |
| use of the word "no". Older kids sometimes resort | | | | when this independence is challenged that things |
| back to the tantrum stage too, especially when a | | | | become "terrible." Too often, parents initially give a |
| sudden change happens in their life. Temper tantrums | | | | choice, only to take it away later, laying on the guilt, or |
| generally occur when things don't go the way a child | | | | making a kid upset. At times like this kids may say |
| wants. Before they do learn how to speak and gauge | | | | hurtful things like "I don't like you anymore", or even |
| their emotions, the child reacts in frustration because | | | | give you the silent treatment. |
| he cannot express what he wants. | | | | Let your child know it's ok to disagree. Let them feel |
| The worst part can be that unresolved parenting | | | | free to disagree with you, as long as it's done in a |
| issues can have an impact on your marriage. Unless | | | | respectful way. Sometimes kids need time to process |
| you get control of this, your relationship will suffer. | | | | how they feel and may very well be able to resolve |
| Fighting about the kids is a very common reason for | | | | their emotions. Toddlers learn by constant repetition. In |
| couples to argue. | | | | order to completely grasp what you are trying to |
| What do children learn at this stage? | | | | make them understand keep consistent. Sometimes a |
| In this stage children learn self-control, self-confidence, | | | | child can be told that he/she is doing something wrong |
| empathy, and anxiety. They simply don't have the | | | | and know that it's wrong but continue to do it, for |
| words to express their wants and needs, nor the | | | | example he/she should not pull anyone's hair. The child |
| maturity to gauge their emotions, so it is extremely | | | | continues only because he/she does not know how to |
| important for parents to create a supportive | | | | control it yet. In order to completely grasp what you |
| environment for them and model the correct behavior. | | | | are trying to make them understand repetition, patience |
| How you respond to the outbursts will largely | | | | and consistency is the key. When you remind her five |
| determine whether your child will decrease or increase. | | | | times and she still does not listen, at the tenth time she |
| Tips That Will Help Stop Those Meltdowns: | | | | will finally understand what you are trying to tell her. |
| Your best defense is to anticipate a tantrum's onset. | | | | Have self control! Your children love you, and hurtful |
| Once you learn to identify your child's tantrum | | | | words and criticisms, especially in the guise of helpful |
| approaching signs, you are in the best place to defuse | | | | parenting, can damage a parent-child relationship. |
| it. An effective strategy is to divert his attention long | | | | After a tantrum collect your thoughts, and then assess |
| enough to reroute his energy. Try to redirect your | | | | your response. Calm consistency is a key to ending |
| child's attention by saying something like "Look! Can | | | | tantrums so be mindful of how you respond to your |
| you see that cat outside?" or try something, like | | | | child. Parents should find a time to talk when a child |
| "Come, let's read your new book!" This technique | | | | seems the most responsive to conversations. |
| doesn't always work, but it's worth a try. | | | | Conclusion |
| Calming methods also work really well.Try rubbing her | | | | At this stage in their development the child is learning |
| back, holding her gently, or humming a relaxing song. | | | | more self-control while he/she becomes more |
| Get down eye to eye, and talk in a soothing voice. Put | | | | cooperative. Learning to take control over your child at |
| your child's feelings into words: "You look so tired! Shall | | | | this stage is an important part of parenthood. Any |
| we cuddle up and lie down on the bed?" At this age | | | | parent can learn how to drastically reduce the |
| the child may begin to consider and realize that other | | | | resistance and get children behave better by using |
| people have feelings and start to develop empathy | | | | some key principles and language techniques. |