Handling Difficult Behavior of 3-4 Year Old Children

Raising children in today's society can be ansee the end result. For example, when cooking
overwhelming, sometimes exhausting, roller coaster. Atbreakfast, let them stir the eggs while explaining even
every age, a child will experience different mentalthough they can't use the stove, they are still
development and understanding of the way the worldresponsible for them being cooked.
around them works. Specifically, the ages of 3 and 4Another factor to consider is the importance of
can be difficult for children and parents. This is often aconsistency. Even though it can seem easier just to
time when independence and defiance take centergive in sometimes, the child will never understand if the
stage.same restrictions are not always followed. Parents
There is no "normal" way for children this age to act.should try to be on the same page when it comes to
Every child is different. While there are methods towhat they consider to be difficult and the
help guide you along the way, some tactics will needconsequences the child will face.
tweaking to help fit the parents needs. One key inChildren will often react negatively when an adult yells
handling these behaviors is patience. Remember thatat them; because they have been ask not to yell. Even
they are still learning their way. What may not seemin stressful situations, parents must remember they are
like a big deal for us can cause inappropriate behavior.the adults, and the children still have lots to learn.
Because independence is such an issue for this ageDo you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your
group, it is important for a parent to help their little onechild's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using
feel as independent as possible, while still giving themPunishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or
the appropriate boundaries. By letting them help in smallRewards?
steps of projects, they feel accomplished when they