| Having a child is an incredibly exciting thing. Before your | | | | well-behaved child. |
| child was born, you probably spent so many hours | | | | You may be tempted to spent time trying to make |
| thinking about what he or she would look like, picking | | | | your child feel better about him or herself, but focus |
| out names, and thinking about all fun experiences you'd | | | | instead on giving your child to the tools to succeed. |
| share. But then your child was born, and things may | | | | Teach him or her problem solving skills and |
| not have been exactly as you hoped - he or she acts | | | | accountability. Run a structured household, and don't |
| out more than you expected. It seems that your child | | | | spend time trying to control your home - you are the |
| has a very defiant attitude. | | | | parent so you should always be in control. |
| Many parents have trouble dealing with a defiant child | | | | Some may say that children won't act out if you only |
| because they have a hard time realizing that he or she | | | | try to raise their self-esteem and make them feel |
| isn't the perfect angel they imagined. They may have | | | | better about themselves. However, across my years |
| expected great behavior and manners, but were | | | | of experience as a parent, teacher, and coach, I've |
| taken by surprise when their child misbehaved | | | | found the truth to lie elsewhere. |
| frequently. | | | | Children build their self-esteem by accomplishing goals |
| The first thing that parents need to do in this situation is | | | | and doing the right thing. To help a defiant child learn to |
| understand that they're not dealing with the perfect | | | | behave, teach him or her problem-solving skills as well |
| angel they hoped for, but instead they face the | | | | as the consequences of acting out. |
| problem of disciplining a defiant child. | | | | Teaching your child these components of good |
| If your child exhibits defiant behavior, you'll need to | | | | behavior will help him or her learn to be more |
| realize that while your child isn't perfect, neither are you | | | | respectful, and will improve the quality of your |
| as a parent. Learn how to be right kind of parent for | | | | relationship. |
| your child instead of trying to be a parent for a very | | | | |