| It's interesting isn't it, the divergently different methods | | | | they'll probably not learn it. |
| over history pertaining to parenting practice. Well, | | | | The 'rod of discipline' is not necessarily a cane or a |
| Proverbs has a particular slant on how to bring kids up, | | | | physical implement, but it includes these. For wanton |
| and it's very effective, but it requires a very wise, | | | | and flagrant disregard of people, animals and property, |
| focused parenting style with an eye on the longer term | | | | children up to about 7 or 8 should potentially be |
| development of the child. | | | | chastised i.e. smacked. Doing this properly, however, is |
| There's another significant thing about Proverbs 22--at | | | | a whole subject on its own and something I'm not |
| verse 17 is the commencement of the Thirty Sayings | | | | tackling here. |
| of the Wise that carries on into Proverbs 24. But more | | | | There are four clear "do not's" in the six Sayings of |
| on that further down. | | | | the Wise in Proverbs 22:22-28. These are clear |
| Two key proverbs on parenting virtue around the | | | | commands for the wise to be ever vigilant about. |
| discipline of our children mark the proverbial stance. | | | | We do not exploit the poor, as we'd be pitting |
| Verses 6 and 15 (TNIV) say respectively, | | | | ourselves against God. We're careful not to make |
| "Start children off on the way they should go, and | | | | friends with those prone to a "hot temper" as we |
| even when they are old they will not turn from it... [and] | | | | might very well become ensnared with them. |
| ... Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of | | | | We don't move ancient boundary stones i.e. lie or steal |
| discipline will drive it far away." | | | | to defraud someone over land--the most precious |
| We must start children on their way to virtuous (wise, | | | | material commodity in the ancient Near East--most of |
| prudent, diligent) living from the very first moment, and | | | | all regarding our relatives. Blood is thicker than water, |
| each day forth, being careful not to be lazy in the task | | | | after all! |
| of teaching them moral truth. We do this and most of | | | | We must also not go into bat for someone with whom |
| the time we can expect them to not turn from it. It will | | | | a bad association is likely to form or has formed. |
| become so ingrained. | | | | Getting involved with them might mean we'd put at |
| Importantly, the heart will know the 'moral reason why' | | | | jeopardy everything we call precious. |
| and the grown child will reflect a fundamental concern | | | | Finally, we're encouraged to grow our skills, for the |
| for the preciousness of others. | | | | skilful will not serve only the lowly; they'll end up |
| To teach this is our goal as parents, and anytime we | | | | working for the finest bosses available. This further |
| see our kids straying from moral living we have to | | | | inspires us in our work and extends and propounds our |
| sternly correct them. It would be better to over-correct | | | | purpose in life. |
| (without becoming abusive) than under-correct, for | | | | Copyright © 2009, S. J. Wickham. All Rights |
| children are by nature 'foolish' of heart. Unless we | | | | Reserved. |
| teach them about the core preciousness of others | | | | |