| This write-up focuses on how parents can handle their | | | | curfew time, and while you are telling her that she'll |
| child's defiant behavior and the cursing that can come | | | | have to forego going out for the next couple of |
| with it. We focus essentially on situations when children | | | | weekends, she starts throwing an array of curse |
| swear as a form of retaliation when they are being | | | | words at you. Here, you simply need to reaffirm what |
| reprimanded for something that they've done before. | | | | you've told her (her being grounded for 2 weekends) |
| In situations like these, you should first look at it from | | | | and simply walk away. |
| your child's point of view. Your child, in all probability, | | | | Getting drawn into an argument about the language |
| feels like he has been cornered, and nobody likes to | | | | being used at this point will not really help. For the |
| feel this way. The power that you are exercising as a | | | | moment, you should let this pass. |
| parent can result in the following:a) Your child starting | | | | However, you shouldn't forget all about it. When the air |
| to hate you and wanting to verbally and/or physically | | | | around you settles a bit you should approach her and |
| attack youb) Your child trying to do something in order | | | | tell her that the language that she previously used was |
| to feel that he is in control | | | | highly undesirable and using such language is |
| When children swear at their parents, this is what they | | | | associated with consequences. You then tell her what |
| are generally trying to achieve. | | | | the consequence is. |
| First, they use this as a medium to release their pent | | | | When you are dealing with a child who has defiant |
| up anger and frustration towards you. In such situations | | | | behavior, his using curse words shouldn't result in your |
| children also try and prove that they are their own | | | | focus shifting from the issue you are currently |
| masters and you don't control what they say. | | | | addressing. While your child might try and divert your |
| Dealing with defiant behavior in such circumstances | | | | attention, you must ensure that you retain your focus. |
| makes it important for you to identify what your child is | | | | It is important that you stay focused and have control, |
| trying to do. Getting involved in an unnecessary | | | | and also stick to the issue being discussed. |
| argument at this point is best avoided. Getting drawn | | | | The issue involving your child swearing can be |
| into an argument would give your child a feeling of | | | | addressed when things calm down a little. This isn't |
| having some sort of control. | | | | something that should be allowed to pass, and your |
| Here, you should try and retain your composure, and | | | | child should not feel that you've given in. Keep your |
| also try and get on top of things. | | | | focus on the issue currently being discussed, and |
| For instance, your daughter ends up breaking her | | | | address the cursing issue at a later time. |