Communication at the Job Site - Giving Up "Because I Told You So"

Communication at the job site is very often aeasily duplicated.
challenge. From communication between theStep 4: Make sure you are not just heard, but
construction crew in the field and the main office tounderstood too!
communication from primary leadership toMake sure those around you understand what is being
superintendent to the field crew, there are manyasked of them in terms of the job they are to do and
opportunities for missteps, miscommunication, andby-when they are supposed to do it; make sure what
upsets. Yet the key to complete success with everyyou intend to teach your team is what they are
job, whether big or small, is full and completelearning! As leaders, supervisors, or general team
communication everywhere and at all times!members on the job we have to not only know that
Communication breakdowns lead to poor efficiencies,what we are saying is being heard, but we have to
poor morale, or worse yet poor general outcome ofmake sure it is being understood too. Luckily there's an
the job! All of which have the potential to affect youreasy way of checking in with crews on the job site to
personal bottom line. So, if poor communicationsee if what we are saying is being heard. Speak from
between team members has the ability to negativelyfirst person and say:
affect the profitability of our construction companies,"Some time back I was in a similar situation where Joe
why do we make communication on the job site soasked me to complete a project and after our
hard?meeting was over, I really didn't get or understand
Communication is difficult simply because we arecorrectly what he was asking and I ended up not doing
human beings. We have lives outside of the work wewhat he wanted me to do. Therefore, would you mind
do, and separating our lives, our feelings, and theplease telling me what you understand out of our
people we are from the work we do simply is notconversation so I can help you not to make the same
doable. Meaning, that on the job site not only are wemistakes I did?"
dealing with the job we do, the people we work with,Step 5: Accountability
and those things we are accountable for, but we areNow, there is the issue of people saying they heard,
also carrying around circumstances and issues fromthey gave it back to you like they heard and
our lives outside of the work we do. (Examples: family,understood it, but they don't do what they said they
health issues, bills to pay, homes to maintain, thoughtswere going to do. What do you do then? Hold them
feelings, and on and on and on!) Our communicationsaccountable!
have to filter through all of the "non-work" things on ourHolding People Accountable
minds in order for communication to really get through.First, you need to ask permission to speak straight with
Now, if we are so gripped by the stuff going on in ourregard to the situation and acknowledge the
heads, how do we break through and become clear,circumstance from your perspective and any
concise, and honorable in our communications, in whataccountability you might have in the situation.
we speak and in what we hear?Second, ask what happened and allow them the
Full and complete communication How-tosopportunity to share with you their perspective, and
Step 1: Stop and think about who you are being.look for their understanding and acknowledgment of
Well, we all know that treating others on the job sitetheir responsibility.
like we treat our children isn't exactly the mostThird, explain the impact it had on you, them, others,
effective way to get a job done. However, whetherand/or the company. Be careful not to make them
we actually say, "Because I told you so!" or not, thewrong, but you do want them to clearly understand
way we say things and how we behave can certainlythe consequences of their actions, or lack thereof.
make whatever words we use feel the same as aFourth, provide them with the opportunity to say
parent lowering the boom on their out of controlwhatever they need to at this point. What you are
teenager.looking for is an indication that they are taking
Instead of being all about your own agenda - in a rush,responsibility and are willing to take part in any actions
giving short answers, and resorting to "Because I toldnecessary to rectify the situation.
you so," slow down and think about how you areFifth, inform them of your expectations for the future
communicating, what you want to communicate andand of any possible consequences if this reoccurs.
then communicate fully and completely why somethingSixth, get from them their promise regarding future
is being done the way it is. Stay present to theactions and behavior.
question of: "Am I communicating so that what I'mFinally, say something to complete this issue and move
saying can actually be heard or are the words I'mon!
using, the tone of my voice or my body language inStep 6: Give up Make Wrongs
the way of the message getting through?"Often times tense and less than complete
Remember: The speaker in any communication iscommunications are the result of upsets and
responsible for what the recipient (listener) actuallymisunderstandings between co-workers that put
gets from the communication. So, if a gruff and shortpeople in a defensive position. Listening or speaking
communication style isn't going to get through to thefrom a defensive state of mind is no way to
team, consider what communication style will getcommunicate fully and completely. After all, how well
through and adjust what you are saying and how youdo we hear or communicate with others when we are
say it accordingly!continually planning out our own defense in our heads?
Step 2: Do not assume anybody or anything!It is in this case that all sides have to give up making
Assumptions are a part of how all of us communicateothers wrong, and rather than allow upsets to fester,
- we even make assumptions without realizing anwe have got to communicate in a straightforward, but
assumption is being made! However, as Henry Winklercalm manner. For instance, "I really felt like you were
is quoted as having said, "Assumptions are theaccusing me of mishandling my interaction with the
termites of relationships."trade contractor and this is how it left me feeling."
Assumptions about what our team members andBy communicating directly with the person there is an
co-workers do and do not know; are or aren't going toupset with, there is little room for make wrongs and
say, or what they are or aren't going to do are someupsets to fester - meaning mole hills will not be made
of the greatest roadblocks we have to clear andinto mountains on the job site!
complete communication! Assumptions turn a possibilityStep 7: Make "I don't know" Okay
into an absolute, and in a split second an incorrectA lot of communications don't happen simply because
assumption can lead us down the wrong path.we do not want those around us to know that we
We assume so much about our team members. Yet,don't know!! So, we've got to foster an environment
we are working in the construction industry where thewhere we welcome questions, where we don't just
lack of training over the last 16-17 years has createdgive lip service to the notion, but actually take the time
an environment where many of the younger peopleto answer the questions those on our crew have
working on-site flat don't know how to do what youbefore we move on to anything else! We've got to
know how to do! So guess what? Not only do we asmake it okay for any member on the crew to say: "I
leaders have to give up our assumptions and be cleardon't know how to do this." or "I don't understand." Also,
about what our team does and doesn't know how towhen we make the room for questions to be asked,
do, but we are going to have to teach them what theynever ever make someone wrong for doing so. This is
don't know!not just about full and complete communication on the
Step 3: Teach instead of Tellhuman level, it is about building trust as well!
The definition of Teach is: to cause to knowThe more your crew trusts what is said the more you
something. The definition of Tell is: to order, or direct.will grow as a team, and it is inside of a well built team
When considering these two definitions, which one dothat full and complete communication can really grow.
you think communicates most fully and completely?Ultimately the person responsible for the quality of any
Obviously, when we take the time to teach andcommunication is the speaker. But remember: You
explain to our co-workers why we do something thecan't read other people's minds and they can't read
way we do, the results will be much better than if weyours, meaning full and complete communication is a
simply tell them what to do. Yet, in most instances wetwo-way street, and just one barrier can throw the
aren't teaching those around us anything... we areflow off. Don't be the one to create the bottle-neck...
usually TELLING them what to do, and "Telling" doesCommunicate fully and completely everywhere, all of
not translate well into an action or way of being that isthe time!