Biblical Premarital Counseling - 5 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before You Get Married

Many marriages are successful. Many are not. HavingOne of the highest reasons for divorce, next to
your marriage based on a Christian foundation caninfidelity has to do with financial matters. Some things
increase the chances of it being successful and longyou should consider before you get married are.a. Are
lasting by leaps and bounds. Again, as we knowyou a spender or a saver?b. What are your thoughts
marriage is not easy but incorporating Christianon saving/ investing now and in the future?c. Are you
principles on a regular basis can make those difficultin debt and what is your plan to get out of debt?d.
times become much easier.What are the things you think are worth getting into
Top 5 Premarital Questions You Should Ask Yourselfdebt for (house, car, education ect...)
Before You Get Married4. How Well Do You Get Along With Your In-laws
1. How Well Do You And Your Partner Handle ConflictHow well you get along with your in-laws can have a
As much as you are in love now, conflicts are sure tohuge impact on your marriage. Do you and your
arise. And how you handle those conflicts are key toin-laws get along now and how will your time be spent
having a successful and lasting relationship. It is in ourwith them in the future? How involved are they in your
nature to avoid conflict but this can lead to resentmentspouse's life now, and are they willing to let you and
and bitterness. If you and your soon to be spouseyour spouse resolve your differences on your own
have difficulty in resolving conflict then are you willing towithout getting involved. Remember this is your
seek counseling to lean how to communicate yourmarriage. A union and covenant made between you,
feelings in a healthy effective manor? Premaritalyour spouse, and God. If trouble does arise are you
counseling is a great way to discover more aboutwilling to seek the Lord for help and are you willing to
yourself and your spouse. Conflict resolution is a skillseek out counseling in the future if needed?
that can be learned and will not only enhance your5. Do Either Of You Have Children From a Previous
marriage but will help ensure it lasts a lifetime.Marriage
2. What Are Your Views On Raising ChildrenHaving a blended family can be quite a challenge for
(Discipline)both parents involved. It's a good idea to have a plan
If you plan on having children, then one of the majorbefore you get married as to how conflicts between
stumbling blocks in a marriage can be how you andyou and the children of your spouse will be handled.
your spouse handle the disciplining of the children. MoreWhat are your expectations of your spouse as a
often or not this area of the marriage is not consideredstepparent? How do you get along with the
until the children arrive. Then you soon discover youstepchildren now? Once you are married how will
both have different views on how things should bethese relationships change?
handled which can lead to conflict between you andThese are just some of the areas that can be sorted
your spouse. Again, premarital counseling can help theout before you get married through premarital
two of you share your feelings and communicatecounseling. I strongly encourage you to seek out
clearly what your expectations are when it comes topremarital counseling through your local church or
raising children.elsewhere prior to making a lifelong commitment to the
3. Financesone you love.