Being a Good Parent to Teenagers

Parenting teenagers can be challenging at times. TheBe firm and stick to your word.
teenage years can be a time when teens feel theyEvery now and then your teenager may have an
are grown. They think they've learned everything theyunreasonable request. In certain circumstances you will
need to know. They often feel their parents arehave to say no. When saying no is in your child's best
outdated and don't know what they're going through.interest be firm and stick to your word. Your teenager
They rebel against rules and limitations. Teenagersmay be angry or upset at first but he'll get over it.
want to take charge of their lives but they're not quiteGive your teenager responsibility.
ready for to handle the responsibility. Being a teenagerYou can't expect your teenager to be responsible if
is a difficult time period for young people. They areyou never allow him to have any responsibility.
gradually making the transition from childhood toGive advice rather than orders.
adulthood but are not quite there yet. There is an innerYour teenager will be much more likely to listen to you
struggle between child and adult going on inside ofif you advise him rather than just bark orders at him.
them. The teenage years are a difficult time for teensTake the time to listen to yourself when talking to your
as well as their parents. But there are ways to easeteen. How do you really sound?
the transitional period for both parents and theirBe supportive.
teenage children.Support your teen in his endeavors but allow him to
Keep the lines of communication open.learn from the consequences of his own actions. If you
Be honest with your teen. Share your feelings andpick up the pieces every time he acts irresponsibly
concerns. Perhaps your teenager will do the same.your teenager will become dependent rather than
Even if your teen doesn't open up to you right away,independent. Encourage your teenager to overcome
that's okay. Most teenagers find it difficult to talk toobstacles and set goals for himself. Set a good
their parents. The important thing is that you let yourexample for him.
teen know you are always available if he wants toBe patient and positive.
talk.Be patient with your teenager. Remind yourself that he
Set limitations but let your teen have his say too.is going through a difficult time too. Learn to control
Include your teen in discussions and decisions thatyour anger. If you are angry over something your teen
involve him. For example, you don't want your 16 yearhas said or done take time to calm down first and
old son out until 2 in the morning so you set a time forthen discuss the offense with your teen later. Keep a
him to be home that is agreeable to both you and him.positive attitude. If you have a negative attitude it will
If you work together to set house rules your teen willeventually rub off on your teen too. Negativity
be more likely to obey them and there will be lessaccomplishes nothing but a positive attitude can make
disagreements. The key is to compromise and youra world of difference.
teenager needs to understand that as well.