| Parents often make the mistake of trying to bribe their | | | | stick with them. Do not give in to their methods of |
| child's good behavior. Begging, pleading and bribery will | | | | begging, pleading and bribery. Remember they most |
| only get a parent so far and virtually gives the child the | | | | likely learned that technique from you. |
| leadership role in the relationship. This will lead to further | | | | Bribery is not necessary to get a child to obey. When |
| behavior problems and leave a parent sitting in the | | | | they do not obey, there should be set consequences. |
| back seat with the child controlling the wheel of the | | | | Follow through with those consequences and do not |
| parenting bus. | | | | bend, even when they try those same tactics on you. |
| Do not fall into the trap. Instead of begging a child's | | | | A child must learn that rules are attached to |
| cooperation or good behavior, simply direct the child on | | | | consequences and there is no way around them. |
| what you want them to do. Yes, it sounds simple and | | | | Once they are in the mindset they will learn to do as |
| you may think it will not work, but it will. Constant | | | | you ask, without the tactics mentioned above. Your |
| redirection may be needed, but eventually if you put | | | | child needs a leader to follow and you as the parent |
| yourself into the leadership position, the child will learn to | | | | are assigned that role. |
| follow. | | | | Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your |
| A parent should not have to plead with their child to do | | | | child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using |
| as they ask. This gives the child the control, and they | | | | Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or |
| will learn how to use that control to their advantage. | | | | Rewards? |
| So, no pleading, set the limits to your satisfaction and | | | | |