| Some famous person once said "a man who defends | | | | inmates told the horror stories of being robbed and |
| everything, defends nothing." These are power words | | | | beat. I remember one teen who literately cried about |
| when you take a moment to think about their impact. | | | | being locked in a cell with an inmate for 30 minutes |
| Parents who are raising children today need to realize | | | | while the inmate stirred at him in a not so friendly way. |
| that fighting every battle that a child confronts them | | | | Out of the 10 teens that visited, only 2 ended up in jail |
| with is a losing battle that will only bring strife to the | | | | themselves. 7 went to college, and 1 is working on his |
| relationship. Arguing with your child every time they spill | | | | GED. To make a long story short, it was not the yelling |
| milk on the carpet, or yelling at them every time they | | | | from their parents that got the teens to respond. It |
| pick up candy at the store will desensitize them to the | | | | was the realness of being in jail, they could smell the |
| yelling. They will start to think that yelling is how | | | | dried urine while they stood in a cold concrete cell |
| communication should be done. Your scrams will | | | | stirring at men in orange jump suits. |
| become, shall I say, normal. | | | | As you see, all the talking and screaming in the world |
| I think parents forget that children are immature. They | | | | will not get your child to budge. All it takes is plug into |
| will break rules, but this isn't a time that should be spent | | | | their emotions. Does this mean that parents should not |
| yelling about rules being broken. On contrary, it is a time | | | | ever raise their voice for something they disapprove |
| when rules should be discussed openly. Children need | | | | of? Of course not, some battles are worth fighting, but |
| to know that playing in the cat liter will make them sick, | | | | those battles should be infrequently wagged. Every |
| so be creative and color a sickly child in the hospital for | | | | child is different, so there isn't a one size fits all solution |
| digesting cat litter. Show a child what his actions could | | | | for every child. Parents who are looking for ways to |
| bring. The key here is to focus on the feelings that all | | | | get their child to respond will have to think of different |
| humans feel. A child can recognize a drawing of a little | | | | ways to push their child's buttons. If your child is not |
| girl with a stomach ache. A child will be less likely to run | | | | behaving, it is something flawed about your parenting |
| into the street if his parent shows him the pain | | | | acumen. How do you reverse negative habits. Easy, |
| associated with getting hit by a car. | | | | you replace those habits with a clear set of good |
| I recall seeing a show on TLC once. A group of unruly | | | | habits. I take that back, it is easy on paper, but it is hard |
| teens were taken to a local jail house to talk to | | | | mentally. It will take a commitment to change. But |
| inmates who explained the rules of begin in jail. The | | | | change is possible if you have desire. |
| teens faces wee etched in shock, as hardened | | | | |