Advice on Troubled Teen Discipline

Discipline of a teen is the most difficult parental taskthe teenager. Teens deal with multiple emotional issues
during adolescence. Stress, peer pressure, hormonaleveryday and parents should communicate and be
changes, mood swings and a host of other changestheir friend rather than their prison wardens. Parents
make teenagers difficult to deal with. Reasonable andshould show the teen why a certain type of behavior
constructive discipline through healthy communicationis unacceptable and make an effort to listen to the
will help the teenager through troubled times. Disciplineteen's reasons for behaving in a certain manner.
needs to be flexible and moderate. Too much disciplineCommunication is a two way street and parents
will cause rebellion and too little will result in theshould listen as well as instruct.
teenager going out of control.Mood shifts are natural in an adolescent. Hormonal
Parents should set ground rules to discipline their teen.changes and external reasons cause these mood
They should also set consequences for breakingshifts. Parents should monitor the activities of their
these rules. Parents need to be calm and unemotionalchildren but they should not become their inquisitors.
in dealing with teenagers. Emotional parents cannotParents should show a healthy interest in the activities
deal effectively with highly strung teenagers. Whenof the teenager but if the teenager is nagged every
teenagers transgress these rules they should be madeday about his or her activities, he or she is likely to
to face the consequences by parents in a calmbecome withdrawn or defiant. Parents need to watch
manner. Parents should also make sure that too manyout for major problems but continuous questioning will
or too few rules are not made. Every minordrive the teen away from the parent.
transgression should not reap a consequence.Parents need to set an example to the teen. Parents
Adolescence is the time when teenagers makeneed to discipline themselves to be a role model to
choices in their lives. Parents should work withteens as much as they were role models to the teen
teenagers when they make choices. Criticizing everywhen they were younger. If parents indulge in negative
choice made by a teenager will push the teen deeperhabits, they are not likely to help the teen with his or
in trouble. Parents should distinguish between choicesher troubles. Parents need to live within boundaries if
made out of curiosity and harmful destructive choices.they want their children to live within those boundaries.
Parents can ignore choices made by teenagers thatDisciplined parents will find it easier to discipline their
they are likely to outgrow and intervene only when theteens.
teenager is making dangerous life threatening choices.Roles of parents change when a child becomes an
Extreme measures can result in extreme indiscipline.adolescent. Parents need to help teens to follow rules
Some parents resort to guilt and intimidation as arather than expect the blind obedience they received
method of disciplining their teen. Making a teenagerwhen the teen was a child.
guilty with intimidation will decrease the self esteem of