Advice For Parents - Handling School Phobia

If your child is burdened with some kind of anxiety, thewell). Other possible triggers are financial issues at
beginning of a school year is sometimes not a pleasanthome, a change of schools or learning difficulties. In
experience for him or her. This can lead to schoolother words, parents of such children should not
phobia, or school avoidance - a syndrome thatautomatically assume that the child is being lazy - there
manifests itself most visibly when there is a newmay and often are deeper issues involved and that
school building involved (think about the first day ofaffect the overall student assessment.
middle of high school). Children with school phobia haveTeachers are quite familiar with the signs of school
a harder-than-usual time with separating from theirphobia and have their own modus operandi for tackling
parents, and all sorts of strange medical complaintsit. The first thing they might do is send the parents
may crop up. Of these, stomach pain is probably thehome, since their presence only makes things worse.
most common - however, the psychosomatic effectOf course, this has to be done tactfully so as not to
of anxiety has also been known to develop highaffect parent-teacher relations adversely. Most
temperatures school phobic children. A tantrum out ofschools have a school counsellor who is trained in
the blue is also not out of the question.calming and reassuring school phobic children. If a
This may sound familiar to you - there certainly is a lotschool bully is involved, they will address the problem
of discussion about school phobia on parent teachertactfully. Teachers will try to identify if learning
networking sites and at local PTA meetings. Somedifficulties orstress about homework are possible
advice for parents is definitely in order.reasons.
A child with school phobia is usually not veryHowever, the parent connection is still the most vital
forthcoming about what he or she is feeling, so theone in understanding and handling school phobia. You,
resistance and fear manifest in medical symptoms,being a parent, most help your child deal with home
tantrums or obscure justifications for staying awaybased issues if they exist. A secure home front goes
from school. The fact is that a child with school phobiaa long way in giving a child more comfort about going
feels unsafe, and this may often have something to doto school. If your child is displaying a chronic avoidance
with issues at home. The existence of a schoolyardof school, it pays to consider how problems in the
bully is one of the most common reasons and there'sparents' relationship with each other, excessive
one at every level, be it elementary school, middlepampering or expectations or any other troubles at
school or high school.home may be contributing. If you have a child with
However, school avoidance is also widely prevalentschool phobia, try discussing the problem on your
among kids whose parents are divorcing or in whoseparent teacher networking forum - these usually yield
family a death has recently occurred. (In fact, childrensome high-grade advice for parents on such issues.
and divorce coexist uneasily on many other fronts, as