| What should you do when your children fight and | | | | You will have to demandingly coach them. "Alright, |
| argue? Well, when it is not violent or not threatening | | | | that's enough. Kevin you go here, and Becky your |
| surprisingly enough its recommended that you do | | | | coming to the kitchen with me." Help your children with |
| nothing. However, my opinion is that this is optional. | | | | finding the right behaviors and words they can use to |
| These are only some 'suggestions' for sibling rivalry but | | | | help settle or disrupt a conflict. |
| they are professional recommendations. They also do | | | | 5. Teaming up is not an acceptable behavior. Teams |
| seem to fit the bill for discouraging group mentality and | | | | playing sides is never good. If teaming up on one child |
| encouraging independence. | | | | occurs you will need to stop it immediately. It is not at |
| Self confidence plays a major role in this particular | | | | all fair or acceptable. Once you witness the beginnings |
| endeavor. Meaning its a benefit you pass on to your | | | | of teaming up a cordial interrupting announcement |
| children by utilizing these guidelines. These are | | | | should be in order. Clearly and loudly state that there is |
| recommendations from several reliable psychologists | | | | to be no teaming up in any way, shape, or form. |
| reviews, only in my own words. They are guidelines | | | | Actually keeping an openly understood main staying |
| for raising confident, independent, and happy kids. | | | | rule of 'No Teaming Up' Is an excellent prevention |
| The Seven Suggestions for Sibling Rivalry | | | | strategy against sibling rivalry. This also does well in |
| 1. Staying out of the conflict is recommended but you | | | | discouraging group mentality and encouraging |
| should always monitor and pay close attention to what | | | | independence. State instead that Your All on the same |
| is going on. Once you feel it has gone too far or just | | | | team. |
| gone on long enough, then the best thing to do is to not | | | | 6. Violence is wrong. Any type of physical threats or |
| really punish or react anymore than just separate | | | | contact is obviously not recommended. Violence is a |
| them. | | | | lot like teaming up and it is not acceptable. Preventing |
| 2. Knowing when to step in is pretty simple. One, use | | | | children from teaming up also teaches that each child |
| your instincts and intuition. As an adult you will know | | | | should speak for his or herself and not side with a |
| when things are about to go south. Here are two | | | | group that speaks for them. |
| major important times that it becomes necessary to | | | | Violent outbreaks increase in possibility from probable |
| get involved.a) When physical violence is incurred or | | | | to almost a guarantee when crowds or groups are |
| threatened. Then, obviously you definitely get involved | | | | concerned. Someone will inevitably want to outdo |
| and right away too.b) Once they begin to take sides, | | | | everyone else and make a show of himself. Then the |
| teaming up is dangerous and can bleed into other | | | | rest follows. |
| areas of their lives. It is very unhealthy. Then get | | | | 7. Aggression is deadly Never allow your children to |
| involved and put an end to things. | | | | use aggression as a way to deal with conflict. It sends |
| 3.The tattle tale temptations. You should never | | | | an altogether negative message and does not help |
| encourage tattle tailing for the sake of the child telling | | | | them grow or learn how to be diplomatic or |
| you information. They will be riddled with a future of | | | | democratic in any way. There is no lesson in allowing |
| serious social mishaps if you allow, reward, or accept | | | | them to lose control. |
| this kind of behavior. It not healthy and in many ways | | | | There are other methods these are just the ones I felt |
| can become an anti-social concern. It causes problems | | | | inclined to in my research. These suggestions for sibling |
| and in the process leads the childs personality | | | | rivalry are recently proven for effective parenting in |
| characteristics towards selfish inclinations and | | | | creating a positive self image in children. When |
| anti-social tendencies. | | | | discouraging group mentality and encouraging |
| 4. Coaching can help out a lot once you become | | | | independence they will develop the skills and |
| involved. Its important for their autonomy to let things | | | | confidence to grow into happy self reliant young adults |
| play out when it is safe to do so. But when it calls for | | | | before you know it. |
| an umpire we have to play the roles we are given. | | | | |