| Are you feeling stressed out and don’t know | | | | your children your love. If you refuse to hug your child |
| how to deal with all the unacceptable children | | | | because he has misbehaved, send him to bed without |
| behaviour that you are faced with? Feeling | | | | his dinner or tell him that you do not love him, you are |
| exasperated is understandable especially if you | | | | showing that your love for him is conditional depending |
| seemed to have tried all means and ways but you just | | | | on his behaviour! This is wrong and it can be very |
| do not seem to be successful in getting your children | | | | damaging to his confidence in you and will only add on |
| to listen to you. What can you do to solve these | | | | to the children problems you are already facing. |
| stressful children problems? | | | | Admit Your Mistake |
| There are many ways in which you can discipline your | | | | You are a human, not a saint so it is only natural that |
| children. You need to select the most effective | | | | you will also make mistakes. However, the vital point to |
| method based on your understanding of your children's | | | | remember is that you admit to your child if you know |
| personalities as well as their age. If you know that your | | | | that you have made a mistake in punishing him for |
| child is better able to accept positive reinforcement | | | | something he had not done. You will be teaching your |
| and gentleness, do not try to apply threats of negative | | | | child the valuable trait of love-forgiveness if you admit |
| consequences on him as it will only cause him to rebel | | | | your mistake to him and apologize for your |
| and not respect you. Here are some tips to keep in | | | | wrong-doings. Tell him that you are sorry for not |
| mind when you are dealing with unacceptable children | | | | trusting his words. |
| behaviour. | | | | Seek Professional Help |
| Keep Your Cool | | | | If, however, you have tried all means and ways to get |
| Do not discipline your children in a fit of anger or when | | | | your child to behave but to no avail, it might be time for |
| you are feeling very stressed. Ensure that you have | | | | you to seek professional assistance. There have been |
| sufficient time to cool down first, otherwise you might | | | | instances whereby parents have brought their children |
| end up doing or saying the wrong things which you | | | | to see a therapist who in turn discovered that their |
| might regret later on. No doubts this can be very | | | | child is suffering from mental impairment and actually |
| difficult especially if the situation requires your | | | | needed medication. |
| immediate attention but you can try taking a few deep | | | | Parents today have to face stresses from work as |
| breaths before reacting. Alternatively, you can try | | | | well as from home so it is understandable that you will |
| looking away for a while or counting to ten before you | | | | get irritable sometimes. Nevertheless, it is crucial that |
| discipline your child. This will allow you some time to | | | | you handle any children behaviour problems that you |
| think rationally first. | | | | have correctly in order not to tarnish the bond that you |
| Maintain Unconditional Love | | | | have built up with your children. Remember, it is not |
| No matter how unacceptable your children's behaviour | | | | wrong to take time away from your children when |
| is, never withhold your love for them. You can punish | | | | you are feeling too stressed out; you don’t |
| them by taking away their privileges such as the | | | | have to feel guilty about it. It might even help you to |
| permission to play computer games, watch television | | | | become more effective in disciplining your children and |
| programmes or using the telephone but never refuse | | | | still gain respect from them. |