| The birth of a child changes lives forever. Becoming a | | | | 4. |
| parent brings with it several concerns and | | | | Reassure the child that he has your unconditional love |
| responsibilities. And, the central concern becomes | | | | and support. Your love is not a measure of the child's |
| "effective parenting." While parenting comes naturally | | | | behavior, performance, or achievements. |
| to most, the many concerns of the modern world and | | | | 5. |
| it's fast paced existence make parenting a many | | | | Freedom needs limits. Being understanding and lenient |
| tiered concern. | | | | does not mean running wild. Children need rules to |
| Parenting in simple terms just means loving your child, | | | | work under as well as a pre-determined schedule. This |
| and teaching him to be a rounded and caring individual. | | | | instills in them a feeling of security as well as discipline. |
| Children need understanding, love, as well as a certain | | | | So, a parent must wield the carrot and stick but subtly |
| guiding hand which will help them make appropriate | | | | not like a military general or great dictator. |
| choices. | | | | 6. |
| The keys to effective parenting are: | | | | The adage, spare the rod and spoil the child is valid. |
| 1. | | | | What a parent needs to do is use positive methods to |
| Understand that you child is an individual with the ability | | | | discipline a child. Never beat or abuse a child but devise |
| to think. Never try and mold a child into what you | | | | a way in which a child looses certain privileges when |
| imagine to be the right mold for him or her. Every child | | | | he or she behaves badly or oversteps limits. Decide |
| has certain inborn talents and must be given the | | | | with the child whether it should be TV privileges, or |
| opportunity to discover their own identity and | | | | pizza treats, or movies, or visits to the mall. Many |
| personality. | | | | parents find "grounded" works well. |
| 2. | | | | 7. |
| Instill in the child a sense of self confidence and trust in | | | | Create bonds that a strong and will stand the |
| you. They must know that at any time they can turn | | | | vicissitudes of time. Be warm, share interests, spend |
| to you for advice and help. Help the child discover | | | | time together, establish routines and rituals, be vigilant |
| themselves, their inner talents and strengths. Keep all | | | | and pick up clues when a child is upset or angry. Keep |
| avenues of conversation open. Listen to what a child | | | | lines of communication open, a child must be able to |
| has to say. You will be surprised at how much children | | | | come and share is troubles and problems with you |
| know today. | | | | without hesitation. |
| 3. | | | | Being a parent is not about providing well, giving pocket |
| Nurture your child's talents and give them the space | | | | money, or satisfying material needs. It is about creating |
| and opportunity to fly with the wind and touch the | | | | love, understanding, and trust. Bonds that are formed in |
| skies. Never try and push a child into a study course or | | | | the early years of life will last a life time of good times |
| profession they are not comfortable with let the child | | | | and bad. It is important for parents to extend a warm |
| find its own level. | | | | hand of friendship. |