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Article #425: Raising Your Child To Be A Good Kid

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Here is the case study the ferrets that then they were good times.
begs the question: environment influences I see many parents struggling these days
to raise a child or genetic with the yoke of full-time jobs that
predisposition to raise a child? don't seem to come with much in terms of
I have a friend who several years ago had vacations. With both parents working,
her child kidnapped out from under her parents can be seeing their children for
from the other parent. Basically, it was as little as a half-an-hour a day. And
a really long weekend that turned into stay-at-home parents discover the burden
well over seven years. The child was of trying to get everything done while
taken to Florida and then years later raising children. How much quality time
appeared on a website near to her home in does a stay-at-home mom have to sit down
Ontario. She had once tracked him down and influence their children?
in Florida but the school told the father I ask you to look at your circumstances
which meant he pulled up stakes. She had as a parent and just accept them.
him in her sites. Even before she picked Reality is reality. The question is, can
up the phone, filed all the paperwork as you change the trend of your parenting
she still had full custody, the child style?
phoned an uncle who gave her number to If so, these are the areas to improve:
him. 1. Rituals and routines--Want to spend
She was very concerned this child would less time fighting with your children?
have been negatively influenced against Stick up illustrations of everything that
her. He had lived on the run, away from needs to get done in the morning and in
any of her family the entire last seven the evening. Give them a checklist to
years. Would he grow to be a good kid fill in. Praise them for their success.
because of his environmental Truthfully, as an adult, we no longer
surroundings? He later told her that rebel against doing our teeth. That's
they were less than ideal with some of because it is routine.
his father's girlfriends semi-starving 2. Set time aside for each child--This is
him or being left with a medical important stuff. A child banks their
condition too long such as a broken arm? self-esteem on what you think of them for
Not ideal at all for environmental. He many, many years. If you child perceives
comes from a wonderful lady, that's for that they aren't worth the time, then
sure but his father didn't seem to get expect them to have some issues around
fatherhood by reports I've heard until their self-esteem. If instead, you take
his own parents wanted the child. a solid ten minutes a day to spend with
But in the end, she was amazed at what a them. It can be sitting on the carpet
fabulous child he was and how he mostly playing with your baby or taking a walk
took everything in his step. So how then with your oldest or playing dolls with
did this result come from a child who was your child. Each child gets your time
pretty much mistreated by the other individually once a day. This applies to
parent and that parent's girlfriends? other parents too. If you feel you don't
Genetic or environmental, I asked. What have time to spend doing this, then
made this child turn out in spite of his intergrate the individual time into
upbringing. chores. There's no reason your child
"No, no, no," she said. "You think that can't dry the dishes or help you put on
he was raised by his father. He wasn't. the wash. But make it their time by
I had him until he was six. That's how talking to them.
long it takes to raise your child up the 3. Meet their spiritual needs.--Talk
right way." about their family, where they came from,
And experts are on her side. For many stories from when you were little and
years, experts in the parenting years fill them with the sense that they
said 0-3 were the most critical years of belong.
development but later around 2001 added 4. Get a copy of the 'Desiderata' for
that 0-6 years of age were the most yourself. This poem reminds each and
important. Communities across our everyone of us how to be a successful
country have become involved with this person and to put things into
time in children's lives through programs perspective. In freeing you own spirit,
of all kinds. In the past, these you will be a better parent. Fill
children would have been met at the yourself up spiritually by seeking out
school door. So yes, her point has a lot support groups for families. Never
of belief from the academic and social isolate yourself from your community.
community. 5. Outings--Play as a family as much as
If you don't have any sense of control, you can. Remember always that there will
then oh well, that's going to pretty much come a time when they want their friends
continue past the age of six. If you do, over. Steal one day a week just for your
it too will continue. Now, not every family and put a special stamp on it that
parent/child relationship is ideal in says nobody else, just your family can
certain years but on the whole, if you have that day.
can count most of those years as good Good luck in your parenting.
ones where you see your child grow-up,






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