Parenting and Youth Violence - Parenting Matters

Violence is one of the major causes of mortality andIn another study, it was found that among boys who
morbidity among youth. With slightly more than 1 in 3had all the specific risk factors and none of the three
high school students reported to be involved in aprotective factors, 71% were predicted to be involved
physical fight, this is a major social issue. For highin violent behavior at the time of the second interview.
school students almost 1 in 10 have been involved inFor boys who had none of the risk factors and all
dating violence and almost 1 in 3 had their propertythree protective factors, only 18% were predicted to
stolen or deliberately damaged at school. Thankfully,be involved in violent behavior. Likewise, for girls who
parents are not powerless as recent published studieshad all the risk factors and none of the three
show. I describe some simple steps parents can take.protective factors, 61% were predicted to be involved
Can we as parents influence our kids with respect toin violent behavior at the time of the second interview.
use of violence? The good news is that if our kids seeAmong girls who had none of the risk factors and all
us as disapproving of the use of violence to solvethree protective factors, only 7% were predicted to be
interpersonal problems then they were more likely notinvolved in violent behavior.
to engage in violent behavior. Interestingly, almost 40%In summary to reduce youth violence, we need to
of the parents indicated that they would tell their child itstrengthen families, enhance positive relationships with
is okay to hit if another person pushes him or her.adults, encourage a sense of connection with school
Perhaps for some parents, advising their child to fightand improve academic performance. We also need to
back when provoked is the best way they think theirreduce weapon carrying, substance abuse, school
child will be safe.problems and emotional distress. Finally, and most
Using corporal punishment as a disciplining method byimportantly, we know that witnessing or experiencing
parents increased the risk of youth violence asviolence and being exposed to suicide attempts (and
reported in several studies. Seeing parents usingcompletions) of friends and family members endanger
corporal punishment may suggest to young peoplethe lives and well-being of our youth.
that the use of physical force in dealing with a problemAs parents we have the power to reduce youth
is normal. Parents should clearly communicate to theirviolence and improve our children's lives. Lets seize
children how to resolve conflicts without resorting tothat opportunity and stop the violence among our
violence and to model these skills themselves byyouth.
avoiding the use of physical punishment.