| There are few more emotive issues in today's | | | | perspective as opposed to yelling and |
| society than parenting discipline. Ask a | | | | demanding. Ask yourself this... what would |
| hundred parents what child discipline is and | | | | you respond and respect more, being yelled at |
| you'll probably get a hundred different | | | | or spoken to in a calm tone? |
| responses. The parenting discipline landscape | | | | |
| has changed considerably during the last | | | | - Give your children the opportunity to have |
| fifty years, with more emphasis placed on | | | | their say but be careful not to give them |
| mental discipline than physical. | | | | adult privileges. That is, maintain your |
| | | | authority in a positive and firm way. The |
| In this article, we will examine what is | | | | child will respect you for allowing him/her |
| considered implementing new age parenting | | | | to be heard but should know that you set the |
| disciplines which are becoming more widely | | | | rules and they are expected to abide by them. |
| accepted, particularly in the western world. | | | | Break the rules and they will be disciplined. |
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| The Days Of Corporal Punishment | | | | - Be careful not to attack a child's self |
| | | | esteem. A child who is continually told they |
| There was a time when copping a whack on the | | | | are useless are going to grow up thinking |
| bottom was part and parcel of growing up as a | | | | what... they are useless. Praise should be |
| child. It was called corporal punishment and | | | | given when appropriate however, too much |
| was not only invoked at home but was also | | | | praise can also be a dangerous thing. Why? |
| dealt out at school. Remember the cane? I do | | | | Because a child will expect it and if it's |
| and so would many others of the baby boomer | | | | not forthcoming, even for the most trivial |
| era. Was it wrong? This is where you have to | | | | thing, it can affect their self esteem. You |
| be careful because new age parenting | | | | need to find the right balance. |
| disciples have become so dead set opposed to | | | | |
| any form of corporal punishment that any | | | | - As parents, presenting a united front is |
| mention of it now has connotations of child | | | | vital. Parents who disagree continually on |
| abuse. I didn't like it but did it affect my | | | | appropriate punishment in front of a child |
| becoming a model citizen? The answer is a | | | | are headed for trouble. Trouble in the fact |
| firm no! | | | | that children are very perceptive and learn |
| | | | quickly. If one parent shows too much |
| Examining Some Good Discipline Practice | | | | compassion all the time guess what? The child |
| | | | will pick up on this and establish his/her |
| So what are considered good parenting | | | | own higher ground in the battle of getting at |
| practices today? Well, pyschology seems to be | | | | least one parent on side for their own |
| in vogue. Here are some examples: | | | | agendas. |
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| - Don't yell at your child. Why? Because it's | | | | Comparing parenting disciplines from bygone |
| been determined that children respond more | | | | eras is quite interesting. On the surface |
| when approached in a calmer fashion. This | | | | things are certainly done differently but a |
| doesn't mean you need to bribe a child. | | | | closer examination begs the question... have |
| Pointing out errors in a calm and controlled | | | | the core base rules of parenting discipline |
| fashion will earn you more respect in the | | | | really changed? |
| child's eyes, particularly from a mentoring | | | | |