Adult Daughters of Alcoholics

A few times in my life, someone has taken a quickDr. Ackerman separates the book into four parts:
look at me and been able to tell me about myself or aPart One: An exploration of childhood for one raised
little bit about who I am or what I've been through.by an alcoholic parent
Some people have that gift. Whether they areIn this section, Dr. Ackerman addresses the
psychologists, tarot readers, or some old lady in thedifferences in parental gender and its affect on the
grocery store line, they are able to see something inchild. It is often felt that being the child of an alcoholic
my eyes that tells my entire story - in a language onlymother is extremely different than being one of an
they understand.alcoholic father.
This sort of deep fundamental analysis of my psychePart Two: An exploration of yourself and your
has rarely happened outside of interpersonal contact.behaviors
However, when I first read Perfect Daughters, by Dr.Why are you who you are? Where do these patterns
Robert J. Ackerman, I felt like he was one of those- both negative and positive - emerge? How have you
people who could look inside me, but adding to themanaged to cope with the issues in your past and
complexity, was the fact that it was through the pagespresent?
of a book.Part Three: Exploration of past and present behaviors
The book is written on the subject of adult daughtersand accepting them
of alcoholics. Though published in 1989, the book's coreDr. Ackerman explores the opinions of the adult
values and principals still apply in today'sdaughters on relationships, parenting, parental issues
alcoholic-ridden society. Millions of women have grownand addictions. Every woman may not have
up under the care of alcoholics developing certainaddressed every issue, but there was at least one
traits, repeating certain patterns, not really sure whywoman to exemplify every issue.
they have become the person they have.Part Four: Exploration of discovering and recovering
Perfect Daughters attempts to explain theThis section is about finding the strength and beauty
characteristics of an adult daughter of an alcoholic. Forwithin. Learning to accept those parts of yourself you
this book, he studied more than 1200 women whocherish and discard or change those parts that are
grew up in alcoholic families in order to substantiateharmful.
that there is in fact a distinct difference between themDavid is the owner of Rehabilitation Help, and Alcholol
and those who did not grow up in an alcoholic family.Rehabilitation websites. David provides great
The book is geared towards recovery, since no tworesources for people seeking information regarding
women could have possible lived the same lives andthese subjects.
endured the same heartache.