| You are being a permissive parent when you are | | | | work at all for you in the long run. What are some of |
| compliant, indulgent, or indifferent with your children. | | | | the consequences to you? |
| When you are being compliant, you are giving yourself | | | | * I feel trapped and used. |
| up and going along with what your children want to | | | | * I feel resentful. |
| avoid their upset with you. When you are being | | | | * My child is often angry at me. |
| indulgent, you are giving in to your children, even when | | | | * My child often shuts me out. |
| you know it is not good for them - again to avoid their | | | | * Parenting is not fun. It feels like a burden. |
| upset. When you are being indifferent, you have | | | | * I feel resentful toward my child. |
| withdrawn from being an involved parent and from | | | | * I feel tense, anxious, angry or frustrated. |
| being affected or concerned by your children's | | | | * I feel like a failure as a parent. |
| behavior. | | | | * My child and I do not have fun together. |
| POSSIBLE NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES TO YOUR | | | | Parenting is supposed to be a fun and fulfilling |
| CHILD OF BEING A PERMISSIVE PARENT | | | | experience, which is will be when you learn to be loving |
| While giving in to your child may make you feel safe | | | | with both yourself and your children. |
| from conflict in the moment, there are many short and | | | | Permissive parenting has created a generation of |
| long term negative consequences to being a | | | | entitlement children. These are the young adults who |
| permissive parent. | | | | think they do not have to work hard to get where |
| What are the negative consequences with your child? | | | | they want to go. Because their parents did not follow |
| * My child is demanding and disrespectful. | | | | through with consequences for unacceptable behavior, |
| * My child has no regard for others wants and needs. | | | | these people think they can get away with mediocre |
| * My child sometimes acts like a selfish, self-centered | | | | effort, and are angry and demanding when they don't |
| brat. | | | | get their way. |
| * My child expects others to take responsibility for him | | | | Permissive parenting often creates self-centered and |
| or her. | | | | irresponsible children and adults. |
| * No matter how much I give my child, he or she is | | | | WHAT TO DO? |
| never happy. It never seems to be enough. | | | | Permissive parents are often more concerned with |
| * Even though I am constantly giving to my child, my | | | | how their children feel about them than with taking a |
| child is often angry with me. | | | | loving care of themselves. You will continue to be |
| * My child has no sense of self-discipline. | | | | compliant and indulgent with your children as long as |
| * My child lacks self-direction. | | | | trying to control how they feel about you is more |
| * My child is overly needy. | | | | important to you than taking responsibility for your own |
| * My child is angry. | | | | wellbeing. |
| * My child is depressed. | | | | When you decide to take responsibility for yourself - |
| * My child expresses that he or she feels unloved. | | | | for your happiness and inner peace - you will learn |
| * Even though I think I give my child everything, he or | | | | how to set appropriate limits with your children. When |
| she seems to lack self-esteem. | | | | your wellbeing is important to you, you will no longer |
| * My child does not care about his or her health and | | | | allow your children to treat you with disrespect. |
| safety. My child: | | | | If you want to move beyond permissive parenting, it |
| Smokes | | | | will be helpful to read parenting books and take |
| Drinks alcohol | | | | parenting classes to learn how to be loving to yourself |
| Smokes pot | | | | and to your children. |
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| What seems easier for you in the short run may not | | | | |