| Parenting is an instinctive process, but is | | | | manipulative or, if they recognize that their |
| often colored by the types of parenting | | | | parents actually want the best for them, make |
| styles that the father and mother have been | | | | them stronger. They can respond to these two |
| exposed to themselves. The emotional baggage | | | | contrary types of parenting styles |
| they bring into their marriage usually has a | | | | constructively. Instead of growing up |
| role to play in all their relationships. | | | | manipulating the mother and resenting the |
| Despite this, most parents are keen on doing | | | | father, the children can face up to the |
| their best for their children, something | | | | father's criticism and improve themselves or |
| every child instinctively recognizes. Hence | | | | confront his remarks positively. They can |
| whichever types of parenting styles, | | | | indulge in their mother's |
| according to the book, that the child | | | | over-protectiveness, or learn to take it |
| receives, the inherent bond of love is the | | | | lightly, and gently chide her for it. |
| strongest governing factor. One of the most | | | | However, not all children respond in this |
| common types of parenting styles is | | | | healthy manner, even within the same family. |
| smothering by the mother and criticism by the | | | | Some grow up as bullies and sullen people who |
| father. The mother tries to spoon feed her | | | | cannot face a real challenge in life. These |
| children at every occasion, and is overly | | | | are options that children face while growing |
| concerned about their increasing need for | | | | up, and their emotional growth really depends |
| independence as they grow older. On the other | | | | on their response to the types of parenting |
| hand, the children can do no right in the | | | | styles they have experienced. Differing |
| eyes of the father, who constantly criticizes | | | | circumstances may result in differing types |
| their appearance, behavior and performance. | | | | of parenting styles, but finally it is the |
| This is often a throwback back on the | | | | various influences during the formative that |
| insecurities and problems faced by the | | | | make a child into the adult he or she |
| parents while they were growing up. An overly | | | | becomes. There are always other influences |
| critical parent may be reacting to stress at | | | | during the growing years, such as teachers, |
| work, or other inter-personal relationships, | | | | peers and often neighbors, grandparents, and |
| including with the spouse. Children, who are | | | | other relatives. The children who recognize |
| raised by a smothering mother and over | | | | their parents' underlying sincerity, however |
| critical father, may react in different ways. | | | | misguided and misrepresented it may have |
| This can either make the children | | | | been, can grow up strong and tolerant. |