| Parenting is an instinctive process, but is often colored | | | | or, if they recognize that their parents actually want |
| by the types of parenting styles that the father and | | | | the best for them, make them stronger. They can |
| mother have been exposed to themselves. The | | | | respond to these two contrary types of parenting |
| emotional baggage they bring into their marriage | | | | styles constructively. Instead of growing up |
| usually has a role to play in all their relationships. | | | | manipulating the mother and resenting the father, the |
| Despite this, most parents are keen on doing their best | | | | children can face up to the father's criticism and |
| for their children, something every child instinctively | | | | improve themselves or confront his remarks positively. |
| recognizes. Hence whichever types of parenting | | | | They can indulge in their mother's over-protectiveness, |
| styles, according to the book, that the child receives, | | | | or learn to take it lightly, and gently chide her for it. |
| the inherent bond of love is the strongest governing | | | | However, not all children respond in this healthy |
| factor. One of the most common types of parenting | | | | manner, even within the same family. Some grow up |
| styles is smothering by the mother and criticism by the | | | | as bullies and sullen people who cannot face a real |
| father. The mother tries to spoon feed her children at | | | | challenge in life. These are options that children face |
| every occasion, and is overly concerned about their | | | | while growing up, and their emotional growth really |
| increasing need for independence as they grow older. | | | | depends on their response to the types of parenting |
| On the other hand, the children can do no right in the | | | | styles they have experienced. Differing circumstances |
| eyes of the father, who constantly criticizes their | | | | may result in differing types of parenting styles, but |
| appearance, behavior and performance. This is often a | | | | finally it is the various influences during the formative |
| throwback back on the insecurities and problems | | | | that make a child into the adult he or she becomes. |
| faced by the parents while they were growing up. An | | | | There are always other influences during the growing |
| overly critical parent may be reacting to stress at | | | | years, such as teachers, peers and often neighbors, |
| work, or other inter-personal relationships, including with | | | | grandparents, and other relatives. The children who |
| the spouse. Children, who are raised by a smothering | | | | recognize their parents' underlying sincerity, however |
| mother and over critical father, may react in different | | | | misguided and misrepresented it may have been, can |
| ways. This can either make the children manipulative | | | | grow up strong and tolerant. |