| Our children deserve to learn important
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| | freely. And it includes tolerance for
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| lessons from us and to acquire important
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| | people who do not share our beliefs or
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| habits with our help. They need help in
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| | likes or dislikes, as long as they do not
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| learning what matters to us. We want our
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| | harm others.
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| children to grow up to be responsible
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| | These habits are especially important
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| adults. We want them to learn to feel,
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| | because many of the wrongs people commit
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| think, and act with respect for
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| | result from indifference to the suffering
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| themselves and for other people. We want
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| | they cause.
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| them to pursue their own well-being,
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| | Honesty
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| while also being considerate of the needs
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| | Honesty means telling the truth. It means
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| and feelings of others.
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| | not misleading others for our own
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| Today, there is wide recognition that
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| | benefit. It also means trying to make
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| many of our children are not learning to
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| | decisions, especially important ones, on
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| act responsibly while they are young.
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| | the basis of evidence rather than
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| Studies show that many children see
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| | prejudice. Honesty includes dealing with
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| nothing wrong with cheating on tests.
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| | other people and being honest with
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| Some see nothing wrong with taking things
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| | ourselves.
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| that don't belong to them.
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| | To understand the importance of being
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| If proper attitudes and behavior are not
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| | truthful to others, our children need to
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| learned early, problems can mushroom with
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| | learn that living together depends on
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| even worse consequences when children are
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| | trust. Without honesty, trusting each
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| older. As crime has increased, teen-age
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| | other becomes impossible.
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| offenders have shown less and less
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| | Honesty with ourselves involves faring up
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| feeling for their victims. But even for
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| | to our own mistakes and biases, even when
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| the youngsters who will never commit a
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| | we have to admit them to others. It
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| crime, it is better to learn
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| | includes self-criticism. The point is to
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| responsibility when they are young,
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| | learn from our errors and to do our best
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| rather than when they are older and they
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| | to correct them, not to dwell on them.
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| have to change bad habits.
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| | Courage
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| Many parents will also want to share with
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| | Courage is taking a position and doing
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| their children deeply held religious and
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| | what is right, even at the risk of some
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| moral convictions as a foundation for
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| | loss. It means being neither reckless nor
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| ethical behavior. This booklet discusses
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| | cowardly, but faring up to our duties. It
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| habits of fairness, respect, courage,
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| | includes physical courage, intellectual
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| honesty, and compassion that responsible
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| | courage to make decisions on the basis of
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| people share, and it can be used by
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| | evidence, and moral courage to stand up
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| parents with different beliefs.
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| | for our principles.
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| As parents, we can give our children the
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| | Courage does not mean never being afraid.
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| best in us by helping them acquire habits
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| | It can involve trying to overcome our
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| and character traits that they can rely
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| | fears, such as a fear of the dark. But
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| on in their own lives. If we help them
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| | our children also need to learn that
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| lean to take pleasure in thinking and
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| | sometimes it is all right to be afraid.
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| behaving well, they will have the best
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| | Daddy, a man showed us money by the
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| chance to lead good lives as individuals
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| | school playground today.
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| and as citizens in the community. This
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| | What did you do?
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| will be true no matter what unpleasant
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| | We ran for the teacher.
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| situations or bad influences they come
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| | Why did you do that?
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| across.
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| | We were scared. You and Mommy and our
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| What Do We Mean by Responsibility?
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| | teacher Mrs. Jones said never take
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| None of us is born acting responsibly. A
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| | anything from grownups we don't know. Run
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| responsible character is formed over
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| | away. Go and tell somebody we know.
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| time. It is made up of our outlook and
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| | Good for you. It was right to be scared.
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| daily habits associated with feelings,
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| | Lots of people are nice, but some are
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| thoughts, and actions. Responsible people
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| | very mean. They can hurt you. The mean
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| act the way they should whether or not
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| | ones sometimes try to fool people by
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| anyone is watching. They do so because
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| | pretending to be nice. Now, tell me, what
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| they understand that it's right and
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| | did the man look like?
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| because they have the courage and
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| | Courage becomes especially important by
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| self-control to act decently, even when
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| | the time children become teenagers. They
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| tempted to do otherwise.
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| | often have to stand up against peer
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| We want our children to appreciate the
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| | pressure to do the wrong thing, such as
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| importance of being responsible. We also
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| | using drugs.
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| want them to develop the habits and
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| | Self-Control
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| strength to act this way in their
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| | Self-control is the ability to resist
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| everyday lives. Learning to be
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| | inappropriate behavior in order to act
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| responsible includes learning to
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| | responsibly. It relates to all of the
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| * respect and show compassion for others;
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| | different aspects of responsibility
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| * practice honesty as a matter of course;
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| | mentioned so far, including respect and
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| * show courage in standing up for our
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| | compassion for others, honesty, and
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| principles;
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| | courage. It involves persistence and
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| * develop self-control in acting on our
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| | sticking to long-term commitments. It
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| principles;
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| | also includes dealing effectively with
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| * maintain self-respect.
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| | emotions, such as anger, and developing
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| Respect and Compassion for Others
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| | patience.
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| As part of being responsible, children
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| | Self-Respect
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| need to respect and show concern for the
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| | People with self-respect take
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| well-being of other people. Respect
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| | satisfaction in appropriate behavior and
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| ranges from using basic manners to having
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| | hard-won accomplishments. They don't need
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| compassion for the suffering of others.
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| | to put others down or have a lot of money
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| Compassion is developed by trying to see
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| | in order to respect themselves. People
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| things from the point of view of others,
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| | who respect themselves also view
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| and learning that their feelings resemble
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| | selfishness, loss of self-control,
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| our own.
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| | recklessness, cowardice, and dishonesty
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| Daddy, why was Grandma crying?
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| | as wrong and unworthy of them. As they
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| She is very sad. One of her closest
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| | mature, if they have learned the lessons
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| friends just died. Come and sit with me.
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| | of responsibility, they will develop a
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| Do you remember how you felt when your
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| | good conscience to guide them.
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| gerbil, Whiskers, died?
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| | In addition, people who respect
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| I felt sad and lonely.
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| | themselves respect their own health and
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| I'm sure Grandma feels that way, too.
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| | safety. Similarly, they are unwilling to
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| Maybe you can think of a way to help her.
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| | be manipulated by others. Patience or
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| I could give her a hug...
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| | tolerance does not mean allowing others
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| That's a great idea! I'm really glad you
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| | to mistreat us.
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| thought of it.
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| | While we help children have high
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| Respect for others also includes the
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| | standards for themselves, we also need to
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| habit of treating people fairly as
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| | let them know that failure is no
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| individuals, regardless of race, sex, or
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| | embarrassment when we have done our best.
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| ethnic group. As we mature, respect
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| | For example, losing a game when we have
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| includes realizing that not all our
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| | played our best, and our opponents have
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| obligations to others, such as caring for
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| | simply played better, is no disgrace.
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| a family member who is sick, are chosen
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